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Originally posted by alphamale

do they have names? or you just call them this collectively all the time. it really pisses me off cause there is this mexican restarurant i go to that has a kids menu called "leetle peeples plates" :mad:

 

could you call them something else sometimes too??? :laugh:

 

Uh...

 

My Wee Peeps

My Little People

My People

My girlfriends

My sista's

My knuckleheads

My Girls

Dorks

Mister Sister

Bebe'

 

Yes they have names :laugh:

 

Meghan and Erin... :love::love::love::love: My Irish girls ;)

 

DD.. Couldn't agree more.

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Originally posted by Merin

Uh...

Mister Sister

 

AHHHHHH!!! Flashbacks to grade school. We had a sadistic penguin who used that term. AGGGHHHHHH!!!!

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Originally posted by Devildog

AHHHHHH!!! Flashbacks to grade school. We had a sadistic penguin who used that term. AGGGHHHHHH!!!!

 

:lmao:

 

Swweeettttttt!

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No, it wasn't sweet. That was the b!tch that slammed my head into a desk for being a smart@$$ LOL

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Originally posted by Devildog

No, it wasn't sweet. That was the b!tch that slammed my head into a desk for being a smart@$$ LOL

 

Damn!

 

LOL so I guess that tramatic experience did NOT bring you closer to Mister sister? :laugh:

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Nope, but it's all good, I gave back as good as I got. I'm evil like that. I can honestly say I deserved everything I got. LOL

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Originally posted by Devildog

Nope, but it's all good, I gave back as good as I got. I'm evil like that. I can honestly say I deserved everything I got. LOL

 

:lmao:

 

I like to think it was evil forces working against me somehow.. :confused:

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Glad all went well, Merin, and that dude you were having doubts about really came through for you.

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Originally posted by moimeme

Glad all went well, Merin, and that dude you were having doubts about really came through for you.

 

Thank you Moi:)

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savethedrama4allama

Hey merin, I'm so glad you're okay :love: You know that I know all about black ice, man...it got me a couple of months ago.

 

So this means no more hoop-tee?

 

Yeah, I think that traumatic events can bring a couple very close, but they can also tear people apart if blame and anger is involved. Doesn't sound like there is in your case, so enjoy the free "botox" girl :laugh:

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Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama

Yeah, I think that traumatic events can bring a couple very close, but they can also tear people apart if blame and anger is involved.

 

Lol...yeah llama knows how this goes, huh llama?

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Llama and Tiki :love:

 

Thank you sista's!

 

I'm doing okay.. thank God my BF is okay..

The scabs I had on my nose are gone today.. thankfully it kind of looked like I had dried up boogers just sittin there :sick: LOL the one on my mouth looks better today too, but I think it might scab again.. I have a mole right above my mouth and I was afraid it was going to peel off.. uh.. :sick:

 

My BF has been so amazing to me through all of this.. he called me again this morning on his way into work just to check in on me.. make sure I'm good to go.

 

Llama... yes I have no mo hoop-tee.. dammmnnnn it! LOL My mountain bike has been sittin in my Dads garage since I moved in december and he says I may need to start riding that IF I don't get my sh*t together this week and get a new car.. so I guess I'll be looking later today.. ugh! Hate doing that!

 

Anyway.. thanks girly's :love:

 

Llama.. the anger.. damn LOL glad that wasn't the case here fo sho!

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When you love someone, you care about him/her a lot. When something happens like what you went through, one of the feelings the other has is being horrified at the thought of what could have happened. The thought of how close s/he came to losing the person s/he loves.

 

It can change a relationship for the better, hopefully it does. Less of a tendancy to take the other for granted. Cherishing the other person, greater appreciation of having him/er in your life.

 

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Originally posted by Merin

So anyone ever have something like this happen that brought you tight with your SO?

 

Thoughts?

 

I'm glad to hear you both are all right. What an awful thing to go through, especially after everything else you've been dealing with of late.

 

This is not comparable to what you went through, but here goes.

 

The year 2002 was not one of our better years. In May of that year, Gina’s mother succumbed to Non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma after 2½ years of chemo. Later in the year, I was downsized from my job, and Gina’s employer ended her job a week later. That’s right. Both of us unemployed within a week of each other.

 

It was a lot of difficulty to go through, & but we did face it together, drawing on each other, strengthening & encouraging the other. We were already close, of course, but seeing all this through together brought us even closer together. We understand each other more, we can far better sympathize with the other's feelings, and have become far more considerate of the other's needs.

 

It is a proven fact that facing adversity or danger with someone will often result in very close, tight ties that last for years, perhaps a lifetime. Ask a WWII veteran.

 

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Heya grrrrl, I'm glad you're OK. Someone was looking out for you obviously. :cool:

 

My parents are a living example of trauma binding two people together - they met in Saigon during the war, I don't think any one could understand my Da, or what he's been through, but my crazy mum.

 

That said, when I had my subactue seizure cluster jeez, it was 3 years ago now, weeeeeelllll - at first my exH became very supportive. Then he totally pulled away. Because I was having 10-15 seizures a day, I couldn't eat, walk, bathe, or go to the bathroom by myself. It was too much for him to handle. I think you said one of your bubs (wee ones - I call 'em bubs, haha) had a seizure and it was very terrifying for you...well it was for him, and to handle it, he totally pulled away. I wish he hadn't, that he had been able to be abetter man. But he was kind of a sh*t to begin with. :p

 

Aaaanywaaays - much love to you, thank God you're OK.

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Hey Merin,

 

I am so glad that you and your BF are ok!! I am glad to hear that you both did not have any serious injuries....get well!!!! :bunny:

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OMG! Merin! I'm soooo glad you & your bf are OK! They say any landing you can walk away from is a good landing, and I think that goes for cars too.

 

When I was dating my husband he was in a wreck where he was rolled twice and the drunk that hit him landed on his upside down car. H managed to get out very fast and was standing there when onlookers rushed up and started yelling to get to the driver too.

 

It did bring us closer at the time too (although he told me he was afraid I was going to smother him! ;) )

 

It's true that traumatic events can bring people closer -- when we realize that the old song lyrics "you don't know what you got, 'til it's gone" are true. People consciously or sub-consciously imagine what their life would be had the traumatic event ended in a different way.

 

I had something happen to me a few years back that totally changed, or maybe I should say, cleared and enhanced, how I felt about my husband. It was something personal that I alone experienced, but I told hubby about it and he said he could see and feel how much closer I was to him. It was the closest that I've come to really believing in God and it did help me to realize that I might be wrong -- there might really BE a Divine being. I was leaning so far the other way that I wasn't allowing my self to be open-minded about religion and faith. That experience was more profound than losing my children. And that's all I can say about it.

 

We lost two children and at first it brought us close, then it drove us apart and very nearly ended the marriage. Losing a child is a unique experience to parents and has a different effect on relationships. It's difficult to explain to someone who can only try to imagine it -- its never what we imagined it would be like. The personal experience that I had myself was around the same time that we lost our son and had I not had that experience, I think we would have split. It gave me the strength to really work on the marriage and pull it together.

 

I am just so, so glad that you are OK.

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Scott~ Thank you so much ;)

 

Otter~ As always GF.. mad love for you :love: I can only relate with the seizures because of my daughter having them.. she hasn't had one in over a year.. but yeah.. it was the scariest thing I'd ever been through up until Wed night.. I hope things are getting better for you on your end sista.

 

Hokey~ As with DD I cannot imagine the pain of loosing a child.. you are such a courageous woman Hoke, and I'm always amazed at the sense of humor your able to maintain in times of deep trouble.. Love to ya sista.

 

DJones~ Thank you.. I'm getting better, the fat lip isn't so fat today ha! AND I bought a new car yesterday! Yay!

 

Love to you guys here.. I'm always amazed and encouraged when I come here and share something about me.. and the support you guys give.. it is truely selfless.. and I thank you :love:

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Originally posted by Merin

Love to you guys here.. I'm always amazed and encouraged when I come here and share something about me.. and the support you guys give.. it is truely selfless.. and I thank you :love:

 

Well, you give a lot here too, you know!

 

We all love you very much! :love::love:

 

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