Hope4thefuture Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 My STBX left almost a year ago. When he left, he didn't take too much. Most of it is still in my house. I asked if he was going to take it with him when he left, but he just threatened divorce at that point. I wasn't ready for that because I was hoping we would reconcile. We are going through the divorce process and we are almost finalized. Shouldn't he come and get his stuff by now? He had no place to put it because he got an apartment. He could have put it in storage, but I told him to save his money and store it here for awhile. All his things are just constant reminders. I would like him to come and get them. Am I asking too much and being selfish? Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 No - you're not unreasonable. Tell him now is a good time. Set everything aside. If he doesn't get it picked up within a day or two - tell him it's at the curb with a FREE sign on it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 that ^^^ (in writing) or put in the final judgment or decree that he is to pick up {list of items} by X date or they will be deemed abandoned. Either way, make sure it is in writing and you give enough time for a person to arrange to move it. Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 that ^^^ (in writing) or put in the final judgment or decree that he is to pick up {list of items} by X date or they will be deemed abandoned. Either way, make sure it is in writing and you give enough time for a person to arrange to move it. Put it in writing? If you have the need to do that - then also include a bill for storing his things. You've been way too nice about keeping his crap around - you want it out - tell him it goes today. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 You do need to give him a chance to get the stuff. Give him a reasonable deadline before you throw it out . . . like a month. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hope4thefuture Posted July 13, 2014 Author Share Posted July 13, 2014 Thanks for the feedback. I definitely plan on giving him a timeline. Nothing too long. A month is fine with me. Is it wrong to box up his things and keep them in the garage? I would rather not have him come in my house unless necessary. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 That's fine, but I would make a list of what he is picking up to avoid future conflict. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Share Posted July 13, 2014 Thanks for the feedback. I definitely plan on giving him a timeline. Nothing too long. A month is fine with me. Is it wrong to box up his things and keep them in the garage? I would rather not have him come in my house unless necessary. You can absolutely box them up. I would make an inventory & if you think he's particularly vindictive take photos to protect yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hope4thefuture Posted July 13, 2014 Author Share Posted July 13, 2014 I just finished cleaning out his nightstand in the bedroom. Making a pile of his things to make a list. Then putting the things in a box. I have to say this is helping me. It feels good to put his things away. My own little bit of therapy this evening. Out with the old and moving on to the new. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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