Simply Poetic Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 i have this friend right? all of a sudden she just stops talking to me! Its more like "hello" awkward silence! So I said to her her "how come you don't talk about anything with me anymore" she's been like one of my best girl friends! but now things are really wierd. so when she didn't anwser i walked away! She pulled my arm and said " Its not you its me!" I was like WTF!! Isn't that a line you give someone when you wanna break up! We're not together! We're supposed to be friends! If she had a problem with me we could have just talked! but I fear she's growing attracted to me! Help!! Should frienships end once they start to get wierd? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Originally posted by Simply Poetic Should frienships end once they start to get wierd? One or the other of the 'friends' has been harboring and feeding 'romantic intention' while the other was clueless about it. The friendship was being replaced slowly by the "pseudo-friendship": unrequited love posing as 'friendship' with the motivation and intent moving from 'mutual sharing of pleasant company' to 'spending time with someone I wish was my bf/gf'. Once it reaches the point where the balance is tipped, the weirdness begins and for all intents and purposes its the 'point of no return'. Once romance enters a friendship it is difficult, if not impossible to go back to what it was. Once you fall in love, you can't make yourself fall out of love for the sake of the friendship - at least unless you have some superhuman control over your emotions. You can hide it and pretend its not there, but that is only feeding the fire. All you can do is be honest with your friend. If you sense that she likes you, and you don't feel that way about her - don't feed her false hopes by ignoring the problem and allowing this to continue. Find out if this is the case. Be gentle: let her know that you are her friend, that you are not attracted to her in that way, and that you will not be her boyfriend. You will probably end the friendship, but it was pretty much over as soon as she started falling in love with you. That's not to say that you can't still be friendly to her, you'll just have to make sure you have some firm boundaries and clear communication so that she doesn't give herself the wrong idea about what to expect from your friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Well theres the answer to your problem man. Forget your friend that you like and she dosnt like you and go with this girl...er...who likes you but you dont like. Man now im confused Is this girl cute at least. ok ok.. wait let me give you some advice. I have overlooked MANY cute potential girlfriends over the years because i was pining llike a lost puppy over that girl of mine. So i would spare you the same fate my friend. If this is a girl you would have liked if you never met the other one, see if you can hook that shat up yo!! Link to post Share on other sites
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