in love with love Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Hi everyone, So my boyfriend and I of 10 months have broken off permanantly . he insitgated it saying we are too different and we always fight and that we've had too many problems which we have. Most of it all due to circumstances and the circumstances getting to the best of us. Well I really love this guy and I think he loves me too. I have not been myself as of late because of depression and drinking too much but I know if I were my awesome self again he would love me all over again. We have IMed since the break up and he will aways say that he is hurting and that he wants to smell and cuddle with me, that he misses me and such. In the relationship I was a bit clingy and I didn't give him his space but other than that we had a special connection where we went through a lot of drama for each other and despite the difficulties just didn't want to let each other go. he is off to Thaiand in about a week and the thing is he has major yellow fever. This guy loves asian women like no one else I know and on top of that I think he has compulsive sexual addictions, is wilder than most. That in itself was enough for me to try to fight against the relationship as I was always convinced he would cheat but in retrospect he never did and all I can accuse him of is loving asian women too much. My question is if a man has that much of a tendacy of loving asian women and is hyper sexed can any women really make him change? do men give up lust to devote to one women? he treied to give me all of that in the beginning but I rejected him because I was covinced he was a bad boy and that he's dangerous without really knowing him and he said I didn't validate him enough it got hard to hang onto the relationship. When he comes home from the trip if I want to be his girlfriend and win him back again should I do the no contact thing because I'm afraid he will push me out of his mind and forget me with time. Also can a man with yellow fever and a very promiscuous past really change? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Yes, but rarely I would say............ BTW- saying yellow fever is not really PC- you should perhaps say he likes Asian women. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 haha - I am half asian and my asian friends and I always joke about yellow fever. Being a bad boy is a lot more than that, hon. If he is an ass to you, he will probably always be an ass. My 2 cents. Link to post Share on other sites
roxy_1980 Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 I've posted this before...but here it is again. Bad boys eventually change, but only once they've found a woman they want to change for. If he plays while he's with you, then you're not that girl. Of course, you did say that he didn't cheat and was gentlemenly -like to you. You may have been that girl. You gotta talk to him directly to find out. All of us are just guessing to what he's really thinking. Roxy Link to post Share on other sites
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