Benny Lopes Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 This is my first post I'm hoping someone can shed some light on my situation, thank you.. My ex girlfriend dumped me about 3 months ago and since then she has been seeing this new guy, well I would like keep it as short as possible but thank you. The first month of our breakup I was doing what I thought was normal wich is chase her I begged her and try to convince her to reconcile, she led me on for two weeks only to tell me she was with someone else and to leave her alone and to move on so I did... The second month I stopped contacting her and left her alone, she contacted me only to get her stuff she had left at my house, she wouldn't let me take it to her so she came over to my house we ended up having sex..temptation got the best of us and then she stopped contacting me, about a week later she began sending mixed signals trying to be friendly texting me how I've been, good morning, goodnight text, but I ignored them..because she was still with her bf and I didn't want to get involved in drama.. The third month she started texting me she missed me, still loves me and would like to reconcile texts, so I replied to find out whats going on, she told me she had left the boyfriend, so she asked to hang out, so we did and we slept together and she stayed the weekend over my house but she was acting weird she kept checking her phone and going to the bathroom a lot, turns out shes still with her boyfriend, I got mad took her home and stopped talking to her again, so then she began again texting me she has not ate and she has not slept good and she wanted to work things out again..she told me she left me because I was a bad boyfriend and that she was happy with her boyfriend didn't wanna lose him but if she is so happy with him why lie and have sex with me and send me all those text while still with him? Everytime she told me she missed me and loves me I never told her back I stopped chasing her after she led me on and made me feel like a fool, why did she even get with this guy if she was still gonna do all that behind his back? Now I'm not sure if I even would like to reconcile with her even if she really broke up with him because of the things she's been doing while she was in a relationship. We were together for 5 years. I myself have not moved on because I wanna heal first before anything. Anybody got advice Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 Yeah. Go NC and leave this crazy woman in the dust. She sounds seriously messed in the head... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Justaguy30 Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 She sounds like my ex, crazy. My ex did the same thing around 3 months. Called me crying saying how much she missed me and wanted me to come over. I didn't but I am sure we would have had sex if I did. She is dating someone else but lies about it. The thing is if she would do that to the other guy and she already did it to you then yeah no way dude. She was cheating on you when you were together 100 percent if she is acting like this now. Do you want to date someone who will always cheat on you and lie. Its really hard because you love her but she is full of Shhit and empty promises. My advice is stop banging her, she is only doing it to keep power over you. If she actually cared about you she would have broken it off with the other guy and would be with you full time not this when she has time or wants to BS. NC do your best to just forget about her. Shes a hoe. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 RUN! FOREST! RUN!!!! Let her go. I mean, she cheated on you with this other guy (and yes, that happened), then she cheated on him with you!! Time to move on, dude. There are tons of girls that aren't this bat sh*t crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
lauri Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 Every time you sleep with her you validate her feelings and behaviour. You are essentially making her feel like what is happening between you two is ok, because every time she comes back you are jumping into bed with her (so she feels like you don't hate her). She is just playing mind games and wants to ensure she still has you. This new guy is 100% nothing special and she is using you as a back up. It's time for you to be strong, delete her number and block her from having any chance of contact with you. This girl isn't loyal - you don't want to be with someone like that. Link to post Share on other sites
changchewsoon Posted July 15, 2014 Share Posted July 15, 2014 If I were you, I would drop her in a heart beat and let the other guy keep her, she is now his problems to deal with. Man, I feel sorry for the other guy. Well, you can either sit back and enjoy the show, or go straight into strict NC and prepare yourself for the next great girl that is coming your way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted July 15, 2014 Share Posted July 15, 2014 ... or you can unplug the needy you who wants to reconcile with her and bang her while leading her on and searching for some normal woman for partnership. Link to post Share on other sites
NC-Thomas Posted July 15, 2014 Share Posted July 15, 2014 ... or you can unplug the needy you who wants to reconcile with her and bang her while leading her on and searching for some normal woman for partnership. You don't just bang a girl for whom you still have feelings... Unless your completely unattached i would advice against this. Go NC... Link to post Share on other sites
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