reallyconfusednow Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Hi, I've been surfing and reading a lot of the posts and decided to share my dilema. I have a long distance relationship and everything has been going fine until now. I have met someone else and I don't know what to do. This other person makes me laugh, is financially stable, is cute. I mean he's a person I can definitely see myself with. But I love my bf and we are great together. I m so confused now I don't know what to do. This other person is the type of person I can see myself settling down with in the futur eand I knw he would be good for me but I am still young. But hes a great person and don't want to stop talking to him or lose contact with him and be left thinking with what if? But then again I would hate to leave my bf and think what if as well. Ugh!!?? I am so confused. Am I a bad person? I went out with this person for coffee the other day and all we did was talk and we had the best conversations and I really clicked with him. And then I got home and had my bf calling. Its so confusing and I feel as if I am on rollercoaster and as much as I want to get off I can't. I just can't. And my bf is long distance now but it's not for long he will be returning in a few months. I love my bf and I have never had a problem with him but I can't get this other guy out of my head. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Advice- Don't start a new relationship while still involved in an ongoing one. Either end it with your LDR boyfriend, or end it with this guy. You can't have/do both. Well you can, but only if you really wanna end up in a bad state. One more thing...learn boundaries that you need to set yourself when it comes to dealing with friends of the opposite sex. It's easy to get caught up in a new friendship and let it get out of hand like it sounds that this one is/has...so learn to keep yourself OUT of that kind of situation in the future, or you'll find yourself doing this to EVERY significant other you've got. Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 In full agreement with Owl. Don't streach yourself between two ends. Link to post Share on other sites
newby Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 i think dont do anything with the other guy until your bf has been living back w you for a while. its hard to tell how you really feel @ the moment while he is away. keep the new guy as a friend but dont do anything yet til u r sure, REALLY, REALLY sure. its too confusing for you and not fair on anyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
BoatingBabe Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 My dad has this wise saying....A hunter who tries to chase 2 rabbits ends up losing them both. This would apply here. Link to post Share on other sites
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