FolderWife Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 If you're following my drama, you'll know that my husband was acting weird. So you'll know that I went snooping for porn, because that's what makes him act weird. If you're following along, you'll also know that while I was snooping, I found a pack of naked pictures that I'd let him take of me in his bathroom...which is weird, because I'd hidden them in my closet. So now that you're up to date....sort of... I found out that my husband had a po box that I didn't know about. He opened it so when he ordered porn through the mail, it could be delivered there without my knowledge. I went looking for the key, and the logical place for it to be was in his car. I checked the middle console in the car, and right on top of everything was a picture of me on the bed in lacy panties on my knees, with my breasts showing. I about threw UP! My first thought was that he'd showed someone. I couldn't belive that he'd do that without asking my permission first!!!!!!!!! So I left it alone, and spent an hour mulling over it, and freaking out...then I realized that the picture was ON TOP of the stack, so it was recently thrown in there, so maybe he hasn't shown anyone yet. Then I concluded that if he had, I have nothing to be ashamed of, because I let MY HUSBAND take those pictures in MY HOME, and I'm proud of my body, so it's not like I'm a porn slut...I'm a sexy wife. And if my idiot husband is so inconsiderate as to show off my tits to strangers without asking me, then he's the one that looks like a freak. I've shown my boobs to a few people myself *they're fake, so I show pictures to people* So I concluded that I really don't care if he shows a halfway tasteful picture of my fake breasts to someone. At least he didn't take a completely naked one to show I went to the car, and snatched the picture, then went throught the negatives and counted them, and then counted the pictures to make sure they were all there, and there was one picture missing...one of me ine a shirt, and panties, sitting with my legs crossed so you can't see anything. I'd let my mom see that picture so I don't care if he showed that one off. In conclusion. My husband is a sick sick man. There's a posibility of him showing pictures of me to people that I dont' know. He seems like a tasteful guy though, so he could've been telling someone about my fake breasts, and then showed them a picture of them. The freakish thing is that I don't think I care. I think I'm as sick as he is. Link to post Share on other sites
Artifact Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Your husband IS weird. Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 jesus, you have been having a hell of a month! Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 Yes he is...and is it weird that I'm doing everything in my power to just accept him in all his weirdness? Would anyone else put up with everything that I have? Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 Originally posted by Artifact Your husband IS weird. ya think? Thank you all for listening....things go so good for a while, then he goes all sex addict on me! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 He's starting to piss ME off. Why can't he just come clean about it all? Especially if you're okay with him having it now. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 P.S. Quit letting him take nudie pics of you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 thanks tiki That's the last row he'll ever take I think I'm going to open a safety deposit box at the bank, and lock them up in there that way, I don't have to destroy them, and when things die down I can get them back If he can sneak and get a po box, I can sneak and get a safe at the bank Link to post Share on other sites
Podna Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 I am not so sure about all this. It’s impossible to have a fully informed opinion about this until I have had all the information and seen the pictures in question. Send them to me at once and I will tell ya whether he is a weirdo or not. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Don't tempt her..... Hell, even I've seen her tits. Numerous times. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 My ex-H has naked pictures of me, mostly of us having sex and only showing body parts. Although there are a couple of my face. God only knows who's seen those pictures... That's what I get for agreeing to let him take pics. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Monday- Have you TALKED to him about this yet?!?! I grant he's being a jerk, don't take me wrong. So instead of just talking with us here, confront his photo-carrying behind and get to the bottom of it. Obviously, there's NO good reason he'd have those pics in his car, and as his wife (and the photo subject) you've got every right to demand to know what in the heck he's doing with them!!! As far as why he's looking at them himself, he probably does find them to be very erotic. I've been married for 17+ years...it would be interesting to do something similar with my wife, but the worry about something like this happening (someone somehow getting a hold of them) is one of the main reasons I'd never ask. Honestly friend, it sounds to me like the two of you need to quit 'sneaking' around on the whole subject, and work it out! If communication is such a major issue for the two of you, I'd seriously suggest that you consider working together on it somehow. Good luck friend! Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 Thanks for the wise words, Owl. In the beginning, I was always COMPLETELY honest and open with him. I wanted that kind of relationship and bond. However, I kept finding evidence that he was not honest or open at ALL with me. Example: While visiting my parents this weekend, I went to my old church. My aunt who goes there works at a stop where he delivers cakes to. She told me about how he was going to throw some old cakes out, and she said that if he gave them to her, she'd donate them to churches. So my husband filled her car with SO MANY CAKES, that she only had a place to sit and drive Why didn't my husband share that with me? I'd have LOVED to hear that story. I had to hear it from my aunt He's not a sharer. He wants to keep everything private or something. That hurts me, because I was raised that you share EVERYTHING with your partner. Therefore, since he's so secretive, I've adapted being secretive too, so as to protect my feelings. I don't think he's secretive on purpose...I simply think that's the kind of person he is. If it doesn't involve someone, don't discuss it with them. The cake thing didn't involve me, but since I know my aunt, and I know him, I wish he'd shared that story with me. He just didn't think to. I used to share everything that was special to me with him. Like if something happened to someone at work that I found interesting, even though it had NOTHING to do with him, I'd share it with him. But he doesn't even talk about work with me. he says it's because he hates his job, and when he's home, he doesn't want to think about it. I'm trying to accept him, but having him as a partner is so much different than I expected! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 I can't remember sorry, but How long have you two been together? Including marriage... Are you really happy? Is he worth this much heartache and pain? DO you really love him enough to DO most of the compromising and changing? It seems YOU have done so much to make him happy...Nothing seems to make this man happy enough though...There is always gonna be something else around the corner that he'll want or see. (I'm not talking about anybody else, I'm talking about changes you'll have to endure through your marriage.) Monday, I feel for you and all that you've gone through here. He isn't going to open up to you unless he absolutely has to. He seems typical male that way, and if you push it too much on him he'll close up shop and clam up even more. I don't know what else to say except only you will know when you've had enough and when to either call it quits or totally come to some real honest acceptance and live peacefully. Wish you all the best though. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Monday, honey, you have alot of issues to work through. I suggest a therapist- SOON Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted February 23, 2005 Author Share Posted February 23, 2005 This morning before I headed off to work, hubby asked me flat out if I had taken the picture he had of me out of his car. I told him that I had. He asked me how I found it, and I confessed that I was looking for the post office key in his car, and stumbled across it. I asked him why he had it in his car, and he said, "What's wrong with that?" I said, "Nothing, as long as you don't show anyone." He said, "What's wrong with that picture?" I said, "My boobs are sticking out." Then he changed the subject back to me, and asked me why I was snooping for the post office key. I told him that I wanted to know if it was HIS po box, or if he used someone elses address to have his porn mailed to him. He said, "Who's address would I use???" I said, "A friends? I dont' know, you could've asked to borrow someone's address, and let them give you the package...I don't know...but since you confessed that you bought a po box behind my back, I didn't have to snoop to find the answers...I just let it go." The conversation continued from there, but nothing was established. He knows that I took the picture from his car, but I still don't know what it was doing in there. I asked him if he looked at it while he was stopped at red lights or something, and he said yeah I think it's obvious that if he DIDN'T show someone, he was certainly planning to. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 23, 2005 Share Posted February 23, 2005 lol...you should've told him you didn't take it and you had no idea where it could've gone. That'd serve him right. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted February 23, 2005 Author Share Posted February 23, 2005 I thought of that after I'd been honest with him I so wish I'd said, "Huh? What picture? I didn't take a picture....what picture was it? IT WAS WHAT PICTURE!!!! ARE YOU INSANE!!!! SOMEONE OUT THERE HAS A NAKED PICTURE OF ME!?!? WHAT WERE YOU THINKING!?!?!" Really, though, it didn't show too much...just me sitting on the bed in my panties. My boobs were showing, but that's it, so I don't care if someone sees it...but he should've asked me first It's MY body, not his Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 23, 2005 Share Posted February 23, 2005 He'd have DIED. OMG....lmao. Knowin it had to be someone that knew him that stole it - and they had a pic of *his* wifey~poo to jack off to. Link to post Share on other sites
glitter-gal Posted February 23, 2005 Share Posted February 23, 2005 [color=indigo]Too funny!! We should all scare our men with that one!! How would they feel if there was even some remote chance that some strange man out there could be "whackin' it" to their wife's picture.... Hilarious!![/color] Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted February 27, 2005 Share Posted February 27, 2005 Monday, I know you know this, but all the sneaking around, on both sides, is not healthy. I dont think I could stand it. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 19, 2005 Share Posted March 19, 2005 No, you shouldn't have said "Huh? What picture?" Somebody has to be mature in your relationship. If I were you, I'd continue to go to school and try to find a good job. Is he much older than you? Link to post Share on other sites
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