. trying to get to know someone.

[volley]

I met a guy a month ago through his mom and a friend of hers. We went on a double date which was very nice. After that we text here n there. We met up at a dance and danced all night long. At the end of the night I drove him to his house and he kissed me out of the blue which was nice. After that again texted here n there. I asked him what hes looking for etc. Then he stated he wants to take things lightly/slow. In which I agreed. One day I haf my neighbor come over and stated hey I hear ur dating so n so. Im like were did u hear that she's like his father. I stated we aren't dating we are just getting to know each other. She stated that his dad stated he was ready to settle down in which I was unsure about that so I asked him and he stated Im not saying im not looking to settle down but im not looking to jump into anything serious just yet. In which I told him I agreed because if you rush it ruins things. A couple days went by and he asked when are we going to hangout again. I stated we can this week and hes like yes please. So we hungout on thursday. We asked questions to each other in which some brought up the past in which I hate when ur starting to get to know someone. But it was all good. We laughed and smiled and joked. He stated he would invite me into his house if it wasn't a mess. In which I was okay with it. So he reach in for a kiss in which surprised me and then I was like im sorry and gave him a kiss. The next day I text him and I ask so like were do we stand dating, friends. In which no answer and it was way wrong of me to ask that anyways. So i understand. We didnt text for a few days.I text him on sun(yesterday) joking around by saying hey does ur calender have any openings to hangout again. He goes im unsure I have to see what I got going. To me that shows hes uninterested. But yet he shows hes interested. He does like to joke around. Maybe hes just trying to back off a bit since hes not ready yet. But I have heard he likes me. I have asked him a couple times to hang but he had a family gathering and had to go back to work. Maybe he likes to to do things on his time or up to him.. how would you take what he said?

Edited July 15, 2014 by volley

[d0nnivain]

I would take what he said at face value He wants light. I would also stop asking.

 

Try to tune out what the busy-bodies are telling you.

 

 

If you want to date him, why have you been surprised both times when he kissed you? I would think you would be anticipating that.

[volley]

I do anticipate that and I do want to date him. but it just caught me off guard the second time because I was doing something and he rushed in.so I backed off and then kissed him again.