lydon Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 My fiance and I are Eloping, later on this year. We have done a good job hidding this from all family members..till now. I have a very close cousin that met her SO, around the same time as me, got engaged around the same time...so we have allot in common as of late. Recently while having a conversation with my cousin about weddings...i let the cat out of the bag and told her we were eloping..and not to tell anyone... my fiance recently went to the bridal shower for my cousin, and she (cousin) accidentally told everyone in the room that we were eloping, she let it slip..this really embarrased my SO, and she is upset that everyone knows..and she is upset because it will anger my mother, if she is the only one who didn't know..also my SO does not want all the attention..associated with a new bride...does not want a bridal shower, stagette...etc... My question is how to smooth over the waters with my SO, how can i reassure her that all is well...or what would be the best damage control...im sure its flying all over my family by today...i don't want to embarrass my mother as well... help Link to post Share on other sites
Author lydon Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 anyone?? Link to post Share on other sites
hugznkisses21 Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 im not sure there is much u can do.....just see how things go...u cnt be too sure who has told who and who is going to react in a certain way...i would just take it as it comes and see how things unfold....the important thing is that u two are getting married cause u love eachother and as long as u are happy....others should be happy too no matter how u decide to carry out your prenuptuals (sp?) Link to post Share on other sites
Author lydon Posted February 21, 2005 Author Share Posted February 21, 2005 she's mainly upset because she doesn't want to create any hardship with my mother, if she discovers that she was the last to find out. My brother was married last year, on short notice, and my mother was going wild with all the control issues. I think she fears the same, i have no one else to blame but myself, i should have kept my mouth shut. You are right, we are in love, and very much looking forward to getting married, i feel like i destroyed our plans to get married secretly. i have found it hard to keep it under wraps, i have a very large family...400 relatives, where as she has less than 10.. On another note, my SO, did tell some people at work, and it got back to my sons mother, is this the same...not that one act deserves another!!! I just got off the phone with my SO, she is livid, hung up on me twice...I think i'll give her some time to cool down Link to post Share on other sites
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