bambiwboone Posted July 16, 2014 Share Posted July 16, 2014 The MM I've been back and forth w/ had another dday. He made contact this past time by making a fake Facebook and creeling me. Then he finally told me it was him. I should have replied buy I did. I.bought into the whole I'm sorry jazz..crying...so forth. Now that day has come the bw is spreading rumors about me all over town. That I'm crazy..I manipulate and play w/ his emotions. So enough was enough. ..I sent her everything. She refuses to read it!! She would rather ruin me than read the truth that I laid right down in front of her!!! Link to post Share on other sites
notserene Posted July 16, 2014 Share Posted July 16, 2014 It's impossible to control other people. So you didn't get the reaction you wanted? I read your other threads and I hope that you get yourself far away from this situation and get some help. Link to post Share on other sites
A.Moscote Posted July 16, 2014 Share Posted July 16, 2014 Don't let this negative situation beats you down so much, always consciously push yourself to be calm and optimist. At least you have provided her with the truth, with the real situation, which imo is the right thing to do no matter what the outcomes or benefits. How she would reacts on it is not a thing that you can control, just pray that she will at last act rationally about it. I'm sure one day she will be thankful for this piece of information, despite of all the bitterness and hurts she, and you, went through. Perhaps, just like what you've experience before, she too can't emotionally and mentally move on from him. Be patient and persevere through this difficult time. Good things always comes to those who are patient. Try to be the most righteous and compassionate person starting from now, don't care about others judgement and just focus on your life. After sometime, no matter what she say or do, the whole town will know you for the way you really carry yourself. Don't be afraid to back off again from the MM, initiate a more tangible plan this time, and make it last longer than the last time. Also don't neglect your own recovery and reflection, be more consistent with the counseling this time. Be optimist, and view all this as the last storm of a one long horrible season, there's a chance for you to build on your life again on the next morning. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted July 16, 2014 Share Posted July 16, 2014 I don't think you should be with any man until you clean up the mess you have both created, Have you divorced your husband yet? The betrayed wife will continue to attack you because to her you are the predator hunting her husband. It will only get worse until you come to the realization that he will never leave her. Get some help, no relationship will work until you do specially if she continues to slander you, what respectable man will ever want a serious relationship with someone with all your baggage? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gettingstronger Posted July 16, 2014 Share Posted July 16, 2014 Like I tell my husband when he complained about our ow being nutty, if you don't want to be vulnerable to someone's mess, don't get involved in someone's else's mess. Of course that's hindsight now. Just ignore, hold your head up and move toward being a healthier you! One of my favorite sayings is, not my circus- not my monkeys! Hang tough. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 16, 2014 Share Posted July 16, 2014 You're a OW. You practically signed up for the biggest trouble you can get willingly, here it is. Of course his wife will make you the devil, because it's also the truth that you laid down in front of him. If she's the type that desperately wants to reconcile, she'd sooner throw you onto a railroad than have her family's name put in a bad light. You'll have to just ignore it. It's not like you can do much against it anyway. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sub Posted July 16, 2014 Share Posted July 16, 2014 Realistically, the BW has no obligation to believe you or trust you. If that was your expectation, you'd be better served to let it go and move on. Given that this is not the first D-Day, it's probably what you should have done after the initial discovery, so as not to bring this sort of drama upon yourself. I don't know if you're crazy or manipulative, but you're still seeing her H after multiple D-Days. Nobody's going to see you as a victim here. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted July 18, 2014 Share Posted July 18, 2014 The beauty of denial. Look up the user wantingmore and read her story, you'll relate. Realistically, expect the BW to make your life hell and ruin you any wqy possible. Human nature for most. Hang on tight to whatever keeps you strong. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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