Girls Text Less When They Like You?

[Rexxy]

I'm extremely curious about this girl I've been dating, we're coming up to the third date on the 3rd week of knowing each other.

 

I'm not worried about this but just curious.

 

After our last date (2nd date) she went extremely cold with texting, taking ages to respond, longish replies but no open questions like she usually does, and hardly any emoticons. Before the second date it was basically the opposite.

 

I didn't chase and double reply or anything like that, I took a day and half off from texting her to maybe give her some space?

 

Anyway, I texted her after the little break "What are you up to this weekend" and she said "I'm not sure yet I got a farewell on friday and a party on saturday but I'm not sure if I'm going to either because I'm bed ridden, what about you?"

 

I said "whats wrong?, I'm not sure what I'm doing. But I want to take you out again"

 

She said what was wrong and said "Yeah I'd like that"

 

And I said "I hope you get better. We'll see how you feel tomorrow, and organize something then.

 

She said "Thanks me too, ok sounds good"

 

And that was it for another night?

 

Even though she wants to go out on the 3rd date whats with the sudden coldness through text?

[FortunateSon]

I am experiencing the same thing with a girl I have been dating and I don't know what to make of it either? We have had three really good dates and it seems like the text is slowing down? I was thinking the opposite of her really liking me, I thought maybe she was starting the "slow fade" even though we have plans to get together this weekend?

[Rexxy]

I am experiencing the same thing with a girl I have been dating and I don't know what to make of it either? We have had three really good dates and it seems like the text is slowing down? I was thinking the opposite of her really liking me, I thought maybe she was starting the "slow fade" even though we have plans to get together this weekend?

 

That's kind of the feeling I get, but then we'll organize a date. So strange.

[Zippy2000]

Er, no! If girls like you they will text you, and call you MORE.

 

I ve dated a few from the internet and the ones that werent sure or werent interest are the ones who go cold. Hust like your example only for a few days or a week or so goes by and they dump you with the usual its not you its me.

 

The girls who liked me always made an effort to text of call as they wanted my company so no. If a gil likes you. She sure wouldnt text you less.

[Rexxy]

Er, no! If girls like you they will text you, and call you MORE.

 

I ve dated a few from the internet and the ones that werent sure or werent interest are the ones who go cold. Hust like your example only for a few days or a week or so goes by and they dump you with the usual its not you its me.

 

The girls who liked me always made an effort to text of call as they wanted my company so no. If a gil likes you. She sure wouldnt text you less.

 

 

Then why would they accept a date, if a girl wasn't interested I doubt she would go on a 3rd date.

 

She would probably say shes busy and not offer another day, or say she'll think about it.

 

Doesn't really make sense.

[Haydn]

Sorry but if she's not contacting you frequently, probably not that interested. Let her make a move now. Good luck.

[guest569]

I dont think so, i certainly text more when i like someone. Would you? Maybe she's just sick or busy, time will tell..

[Gaeta]

When a girl is interested in you she replies promptly and never leaves your text unanswered.

 

This girl probably had mixed feeling about liking you or not, she also may have been seeing someone else at the same time. She liked him better but now he's a no show so you're back at being an available prospect for her.

 

It doesn't mean it won't develop into something for the both of you, not all relationship beginnings are fairly tales.

 

Go on that 3rd date, have fun, see how it unfolds from there.

[Rexxy]

When a girl is interested in you she replies promptly and never leaves your text unanswered.

 

This girl probably had mixed feeling about liking you or not, she also may have been seeing someone else at the same time. She liked him better but now he's a no show so you're back at being an available prospect for her.

 

It doesn't mean it won't develop into something for the both of you, not all relationship beginnings are fairly tales.

 

Go on that 3rd date, have fun, see how it unfolds from there.

 

Ok then, I'll let you know how it goes.

[FortunateSon]

So if she is texting less and maybe "fading out" what's the best approach? Text her less?

[PegNosePete]

So if she is texting less and maybe "fading out" what's the best approach? Text her less?

Date others.

[Zippy2000]

Then why would they accept a date, if a girl wasn't interested I doubt she would go on a 3rd date.

 

She would probably say shes busy and not offer another day, or say she'll think about it.

 

Doesn't really make sense.

 

 

 

People are allowed to change their minds. However her level of attraction is always deemed by how fast they reply to your texts or calls. (depends how busy they are of course and what theyre doing)

 

I had a similar situation with a woman I dated a year ago. She acceoted a third date which I managed to give her a snog, and then her texts slowly faded to oblivion.

 

I d asked you not to analyse too much and text her too often as it gives off a vibe of clingyness. Asking a question if a girl who likes you or not? Well its all in her actions. She`s texting you less therefore losing interest.

 

All the girls I ve dated and wanted to keep me kept on texting or phoning me to see what I was up to and thats what your doing with her. So if you liked her. let me ask you the SAME question. Would you text her less?

 

I think you know the answer.

[organizedchaos]

Then why would they accept a date, if a girl wasn't interested I doubt she would go on a 3rd date.

 

She would probably say shes busy and not offer another day, or say she'll think about it.

 

Doesn't really make sense.

 

She's lukewarm and/or dating others. You should be doing the same. If she was truely interested you wouldn't be questioning it and posting about it here.

[isisisweeping]

The only reason I text less when I like someone is I got the impression it was too much for them - short or delayed answers from them... or if I'm really, really busy/sick-boring and that would be communicated

[leavesonautumn]

When I'm interested in a guy, I will text or call more often, not less. If someone said "hey, I'd be interested in seeing you again" and the response is "me too". Most likely, that person is just trying to be nice. Next time, try making specific plans with someone instead of saying "let's plan to hang out again soon".

 

The last time I dated a guy, we talked for about 3 weeks. At first, I was responding to his texts right away and was interested in getting to know him but by the second date I could tell I was not really that interested and told him so before the third date could happen.

 

I don't understand why so many people aren't just honest.

[SoonMyFriend]

I text way more if I like a guy. I'll be engaging, respond with questions, and actively look for the next date.

 

She may be accepting another date because she's still on the fence about you. For example - back in April I went on three dates with this one guy, but even though I accepted a third date I was still on the fence about him. It was after our third date I knew for certain I wasn't going to develop an attraction.

 

However, I hate the fade out and basically texted him the next day and said I wasn't feeling it. Turned out he felt the same and we parted mutually!

 

Another example - I was really sick in February and had to cancel a first date with someone I met on OKC. However, even though I felt like death I was still very firm about setting a new date and immediately rescheduled. I didn't want this guy thinknig I was jerking him around.

 

If you're not getting concrete answers about the next date, odds are you might be getting the fade out. If she thinks she'll recover soon (within the next week or so) you can easily look at your schedule and set a date with someone.

[Diezel]

This is the stupid little game people get caught up when it comes to texting. You get so excited that you met someone new and then you just destroy your phone's screen/keypad with texts back and forth and that seems to completely evaporate a lot of the chemistry.

 

That or if they don't respond right away, then you worry, or you over-analyze, or you try to decipher what it means.

 

Know what I think about people who worry about these things, specially MEN? They don't have enough going on in their lives. Or they are only going out with one woman at a time in the first few weeks or just are pedestalizing.

[aprilisi]

Girls are taught that the guy initiates. The guys make contact. If you do then you look desperate and will scare him off.

 

I see communication as thus...he contacts, then you, then he, so on and etc. I know the rules have supposedly changed but I found when I contact a guy often he fades.

[PerfectStorm]

I think that texting is the double edged sword of dating. You used to have to call and leave a message and wait for a call back. You're more in touch but more out of touch. Now, every word you type is over analyzed. Counting words and counting the seconds it takes them to respond is the indication of affection. I must be old because I feel this alone could destroy a legitimate relationship by paranoia and anxiety.

 

A.) If I don't like a guy, I don't agree to go out with him. I say no or make an excuse

B.) I completely ignore him or don't call back if I've lost interest

C.) People really do get sick. People really do get busy.

 

Call and talk to her directly. Problem may not be solved but you'll be able to more accurately detect her feelings.

[fred123]

When I'm interested in a guy, I will text or call more often, not less. If someone said "hey, I'd be interested in seeing you again" and the response is "me too". Most likely, that person is just trying to be nice. Next time, try making specific plans with someone instead of saying "let's plan to hang out again soon".

 

The last time I dated a guy, we talked for about 3 weeks. At first, I was responding to his texts right away and was interested in getting to know him but by the second date I could tell I was not really that interested and told him so before the third date could happen.

 

I don't understand why so many people aren't just honest.

 

what if there was a girl you are talking to and she is on fb and u r talking and she says she is ill. and then you say u want to skype i will try cheer u up. she says no its fine she will sleep.

 

then u find out later on that in the evening she is better and going out.

 

wudnt u want a guy to skype and cheer u up if u reli liked him?

[kolleamm]

If a girl didn't text me I wouldn't text her, simple as that.

[organizedchaos]

what if there was a girl you are talking to and she is on fb and u r talking and she says she is ill. and then you say u want to skype i will try cheer u up. she says no its fine she will sleep.

 

then u find out later on that in the evening she is better and going out.

 

wudnt u want a guy to skype and cheer u up if u reli liked him?

 

Don't overthink it. She might not be feeling up for talking.

[leavesonautumn]

what if there was a girl you are talking to and she is on fb and u r talking and she says she is ill. and then you say u want to skype i will try cheer u up. she says no its fine she will sleep.

 

then u find out later on that in the evening she is better and going out.

 

wudnt u want a guy to skype and cheer u up if u reli liked him?

 

At first I was going to say she probably didn't want to Skype because maybe she thought she looked sick.

 

Then I read the next part to see she went out after. I can't really say but it seems like she is just not that into you. Like another poster said, don't overthink it. She might not know at this point what she wants.

[Rexxy]

A lot of the replies on this thread indicate that she could be still deciding whether or not she likes me, or dating others.

 

So I'm going to take her out on this third date and see how she responds in person. Over-thinking about texting is probably the worst thing I could do since I cant see how her body language or emotion are.

 

For those that say I should be dating others it can be quite difficult for me since I'm an introvert, approaching someone or even keeping up with small talk is extremely difficult since my mind has no interest at first.

 

I'm a tall and attractive guy and get a lot of looks from girls. People assume that I've got date set up for every day of the week which isn't even close to the case. Talking to a girl and actually having a conversation is like you finding a $100 note on the street, very rare.

 

Thanks for all your advice and I'll let you know what happens after this weekend.

[KatZee]

Then why would they accept a date, if a girl wasn't interested I doubt she would go on a 3rd date.

 

She would probably say shes busy and not offer another day, or say she'll think about it.

 

Doesn't really make sense.

 

This is so easy.

 

She was talking to you and she had expectations in her head of who you were. She met you and while the date went OK, it probably didn't blow her socks off. Because of prior "connection" she thought she had with you, it would explain accepting date 2 and 3. Testing out the waters to see if there is indeed something there, or if it's really just another case of "no chemistry" once you meet in person.