nickiintexas Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 Hi there everyone! This is my first post here. Not sure how I stumbled upon this site but I am super glad that I found it. A little background about us: We are still newlyweds - We have been married 1 1/2, but we have been together about 5 years. This is my first marriage, his second marriage. I have no previous children and he brought an 8 year old son into the mix. So not only do I have the challenges of experiencing marriage, but I had to learn parenting skills fast as well. My husband is very kind, generous, and loving.. So I am not sure what my issues are, I just know that there are times where I am really not happy. Once I asked him why he married me and he said it was because he knew it was what I wanted. (Early on he said that he would never get married after his divorce and then a few years later he proposed to me... I just figured it was because he changed his mind). I think I may harbor resentment because we can't travel as often or move anywhere within a certain radius because of his son and because we both work constantly. He recently got a promotion so I feel like he has been putting me on the back burner. I am extremely tired of competing with his cell phone for attention! Also, I love his son but I do not always agree with how his/ex's parenting style is. My friends warned me about marrying someone with a child from a previous marriage but I knew I loved him and figured it was something I would eventually get over. There are times when I wonder what it would be like to be single again. As rude as this sounds, I sometimes feel like it isn't fair that I have to deal with his all of his baggage and that I didn't really bring anything in. I guess my question is, is this normal? I do love him but I am just exhausted of feeling like I have to nag all the time to get things done, clean the house, work 50 or more hours a week, and go to school. I miss when we were dating and it was just less responsibility! Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 He married you because he knew it was what you wanted? A shame he couldn't speak up and say it was what HE wanted, if indeed it was. That answer tells you everything you need to know. Does he have a clear idea of what HE wants, or is he trudging thru life taking the path of least resistance? As for the cell phone and the duties, did you live together before marriage to get a taste of what it would be like? It sounds like a case of buyers remorse. I hope you're owning your share of the blame for your predicament, because you went into it thinking it was something you 'get over'. It's a tough lesson to learn, but if you want out, better now than twenty years into it. Link to post Share on other sites
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