SailorGirl925 Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 Why do I keep feeling the need to drive by his house and see if he's home? He got fired from his job four months ago and is about the most predictable person I've ever met. He lives 3 miles from me. It's beyond me why I am even interested in this jerk anymore. He resurrected our relationship right before Valentine's Day (after dumping me the year before). I was lonely and jumped too quick when he came back. Stupid on my part. We dated for 4 months and things were pretty good until...he got fired. Then his emotional state took a nosedive along with his interest in keeping me around. I was there for him, watched him go into depression, then he just stopped calling, texting, etc. I didn't chase him - I kinda got sick of coddling him and constantly listening to him go on about how everyone did him wrong. He deserved to get fired - he was a jack*** to his boss and got caught doing something he shouldn't have. He dumps me - no explanation, no nothing. I refused to chase him, beg, ask why. I texted him a week after he stopped talking to me. He didn't respond so then I began my NC. Haven't heard a peep. I have to admit I've driven by his house several times (during the day) and he's been home so he's still unemployed. I don't know why I even care. In a bizarre way it's reassuring to drive by and see he is home, no other cars are there... I'm doing ok - I just have those moments and I have the urge to drive by (he will never see me, I turn at the end of his subdivision and just look down at his house. If he sends me breadcrumbs I will either unleash the Kracken and tell him he will never stand a chance of getting me back, or ignore him. I'm mad I left a good set of hair curlers at his house but I will NEVER contact him to get those back. He can throw them away. I'll never break the NC - just wish I could stop the urge to drive by once in a while. Any advice? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
love1336x Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 My gosh, when I get dumped. I always have that urge to go to their house, and simply get hurt again. I remember I traveled 3 hours to see an ex, by train, ferry, then bus. I didn't even get to see him because he was at work because at the time I didn't think he would be working... He was so angry when he got off his shift to see me. Still after, Ive done this for many other exes... I guess in my head... I think if they see me they will want me again. Though for my recent ex I did do this a lot (we broke up like 3 times) and each time he always did take me back, expect for the last time... 3 miles pretty close to your house... You'll get used to it... I guess. Time heals all wound! Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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