the tank Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Need tip please . I started going to the gym, i am doing activity out of my comfort zone . I am meeting new people . I made a list of three new activies I want to try and an action plan to make it happen. But a part of me still feel alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 You are on the right track. Any social activity is good, even a few beers etc... The longer you continue to do social things the less alone you will start to feel. Good luck. Need tip please . I started going to the gym, i am doing activity out of my comfort zone . I am meeting new people . I made a list of three new activies I want to try and an action plan to make it happen. But a part of me still feel alone. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I don't think activities do much for being happily alone. I think being happily alone is more a mindset...where you are truly okay being in your own skin and learning how to be your own best friend. That kind of self-awareness doesn't come with a gym membership. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Humans are social creature. We need to interact with others. I do not believe anybody can be truly happy all alone & completely solitary. That is not to say you can't be happy single / not part of a romantic couple. That is totally possible. You have to keep busy & surround yourself with good friends. Going to a gym & meeting new people is a good start. Volunteer somewhere. Join some kind of group that meets regularly & interests you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the tank Posted July 21, 2014 Author Share Posted July 21, 2014 I don't think activities do much for being happily alone. I think being happily alone is more a mindset...where you are truly okay being in your own skin and learning how to be your own best friend. That kind of self-awareness doesn't come with a gym membership. I agree with you that gym membership doesnt help but it keep me busy. I changed a lot in the last year. I went through a little depression (I saw a psychologist and I'm over it ) after I discover I was with a compulsive liar. I outgrow a long term friendship few months ago. My other best friend went to army. I didnt make really good friend since . I met some new people tough but that's not the same . Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I agree with you that gym membership doesnt help but it keep me busy. I changed a lot in the last year. I went through a little depression (I saw a psychologist and I'm over it ) after I discover I was with a compulsive liar. I outgrow a long term friendship few months ago. My other best friend went to army. I didnt make really good friend since . I met some new people tough but that's not the same . How is meeting people and having people in your life suppose to help you be happy being alone? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Does interaction with humans through the Internet count? If it doesn't then I am one of those who is happy without any face to fave interaction. I prefer communications to be limited to text and Facebook and emails. That would make me extremely depressed but if you are happy, who am I (or anyone else) to challenge that? If it's not enough, I would encourage you to come out from the safety of being behind your computer & do something in person. Link to post Share on other sites
molimo140 Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Make sure that you are happy in all areas of your life. Are you happy in your work? Are you doing what you really feel like is your calling? Link to post Share on other sites
Author the tank Posted July 21, 2014 Author Share Posted July 21, 2014 Make sure that you are happy in all areas of your life. Are you happy in your work? Are you doing what you really feel like is your calling? I couldnt be more happy . Link to post Share on other sites
TouchedByViolet Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 I don't think it is possible for most people to be truly happy alone. It's physiological. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Whether you're comfortable being alone or not, doing as you're doing and entertaining yourself is still the best thing to do. You should also take up reading because it's the perfect solitary activity. I'd recommend a pet but many people aren't set up right for one. A dog needs a yard, really, to not be high maintenance. But they are great company. You might think about getting a house with a yard and a dog door. If you have to walk them all the time, it is a chore. I love dogs but wouldn't have one without a yard to make things right for them. I have a couple and they're my daily joy to come home to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the tank Posted July 22, 2014 Author Share Posted July 22, 2014 Thanks for input. Link to post Share on other sites
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