RedTigerNY Posted February 22, 2005 Share Posted February 22, 2005 i told this girl who used to be my good friend that i had feelings for her and loved her... she is hindu i am christian by the way. she is dating another hindu guy now. she said lets be friends but she isnt making much of effort to contact me. im tryin out the no contact thing but nothing happenin so far... she said i should try seein other girls and go out, party more. cos i dont usually. she said her girlfriends often comment that im "hot" and would date me. is she just testin me to see if ill really go out and dance w other girls - even tho i said id never be able to see or be w another girl besides her? is she just testin me to see how true ill be, keep me around for the long run or somethin? she did say 'who knows in a coupl years we might see each other again things might work out.' thanks for ur input everyone... Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 22, 2005 Share Posted February 22, 2005 She said lets be friends. She doesn't contact you. She is indifferent to NC. She is dating someone else. She encourages you to date and see other people. who knows in a coupl years we might see each other again things might work out If she is keeping you on the back burner, you are so far back on the burner that you aren't even a blip on her radar at this point. Are you really willing to let her live out her dating life, have fun, and enjoy romance while you wait around on the off chance that she might make her way back to you one day a few years from now? Even if she is testing you, and keeping you on the very back burner - is that how you want to waste the time you have ahead of you? Do exactly as she suggests - go meet people, have fun, date if the opportunity comes up. You never know... you may just meet someone who will make you forget all about being the 'back burner boy'. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted February 22, 2005 Share Posted February 22, 2005 Coupla years? Hopefully you don't see this as a compliment. Dude, she's playing with you, and she has a boyfriend on top of it. Plus, she only dates people from her own religion. Fair enough. She already knows how you feel about her, so leave it at that. I'd stay away from her. Once she notices your absence, she'll come looking for you, or you may never see her again. So what. There's plenty of other girls out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RedTigerNY Posted February 22, 2005 Author Share Posted February 22, 2005 thank u for responding..... my friends who are usualy blunt w me and know her too say shes just confused & that shes just wraped up w her current boyfriend. plus will it look like im takin back my word (when i said i cant see anyone but u, no one means anything to me) or tryna make her jealous by going to these parties? cos i usualy dont...... Link to post Share on other sites
LittleMiss Posted February 22, 2005 Share Posted February 22, 2005 Just go out and have fun. She'll realize what she missed out on if things don't work out for her and her current bf. Just don't wait around to see if you get the leftovers. Go out and meet girls and just enjoy yourself. You are only young once so don't waste your time waiting for someone to make up their mind about wanting you. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted February 22, 2005 Share Posted February 22, 2005 plus will it look like im takin back my word (when i said i cant see anyone but u, no one means anything to me) No it won't. It'll show her that you're a real man, and that you have a sense of pride that nobody can take from you. If she's bluffing, the only way you're going to know is by doing something about it. Forget your word... it means nothing to her. NOTHING. Stop looking at yourself as a commodity, or you'll end up hurting yourself in the long run, and you'll have no one to blame but yourself. She doesn't deserve your respect until she earns it. So make her earn it. And stop listening to your friends. They're no help to you... hell, they probably like her too. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 22, 2005 Share Posted February 22, 2005 Originally posted by RedTigerNY is she just testin me? No Link to post Share on other sites
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