s3rv0n Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 The thing that I need help with is overcoming my fear of missing out on every possible experience related to a girl. The thing is that I don't necessarily want to have a girlfriend or have sex, but I realize that I will eventually regret wasting my youth without having experienced things such as love or sex. I have no idea how I have been alive for 23 years and still haven't even had a girlfriend. I am just not the type of guy that wants to sleep with any girl. I always wanted something more meaningful. My friends tell me to get it over with and sleep with a random girl, but I just can't. I am a college student and after attending my university for 6 months, I have realized that girls are very shallow, especially at this age. Every girl I have tried talking to ended up not texting me back or simply rejecting me. It's not that I am not attractive or don't have any "game", but in this college town there are hundreds of other guys from which those girls could pick, and I certainly don't feel like the best suited one. Not sure if it applies to all women, but these girls have made me despise everything about females. Being nice, funny, none of it matters, it's all about social status, power, how much of an ******* you are or how rich you are. After meeting some of these girls, I would occasionally go out, but I have stopped trying to talk to any girl. I am convinced that there is nothing pure about them anymore. The fact that I am a virgin has taken control of my life, but I refuse to resort on anything that I'm not comfortable with. I see attractive girls everyday and it makes me hate myself and life. Why? Because women are so beautiful and yet, I have no idea what it feels like to be loved, or to have a girlfriend that cares about you. It's a major mental issue for me. And when I will eventually have sex, I will probably be too bad at it since I was saving myself for a girl that is really attractive. Then, she'd probably choose to get out of my life, as well. So I just try to be distracted as much as possible with studying, working out, but these thoughts always come back into my head and I'm getting older and older and feel like I'm missing out on something. I don't want to think about this moment 10 years from now and end up being even more depressed, feeling like I have wasted my life. Link to post Share on other sites
kolleamm Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 The thing that I need help with is overcoming my fear of missing out on every possible experience related to a girl. The thing is that I don't necessarily want to have a girlfriend or have sex, but I realize that I will eventually regret wasting my youth without having experienced things such as love or sex. I have no idea how I have been alive for 23 years and still haven't even had a girlfriend. I am just not the type of guy that wants to sleep with any girl. I always wanted something more meaningful. My friends tell me to get it over with and sleep with a random girl, but I just can't. I am a college student and after attending my university for 6 months, I have realized that girls are very shallow, especially at this age. Every girl I have tried talking to ended up not texting me back or simply rejecting me. It's not that I am not attractive or don't have any "game", but in this college town there are hundreds of other guys from which those girls could pick, and I certainly don't feel like the best suited one. Not sure if it applies to all women, but these girls have made me despise everything about females. Being nice, funny, none of it matters, it's all about social status, power, how much of an ******* you are or how rich you are. After meeting some of these girls, I would occasionally go out, but I have stopped trying to talk to any girl. I am convinced that there is nothing pure about them anymore. The fact that I am a virgin has taken control of my life, but I refuse to resort on anything that I'm not comfortable with. I see attractive girls everyday and it makes me hate myself and life. Why? Because women are so beautiful and yet, I have no idea what it feels like to be loved, or to have a girlfriend that cares about you. It's a major mental issue for me. And when I will eventually have sex, I will probably be too bad at it since I was saving myself for a girl that is really attractive. Then, she'd probably choose to get out of my life, as well. So I just try to be distracted as much as possible with studying, working out, but these thoughts always come back into my head and I'm getting older and older and feel like I'm missing out on something. I don't want to think about this moment 10 years from now and end up being even more depressed, feeling like I have wasted my life. Its ok it's actually pretty common. My questions for you are -- 1. Are you socializing enough? 2. Are you in good physical shape? If not I suggest you address those problems as they are probably the root of it all. By the way, starting a conversation with a woman out of thin air anywhere is not as hard as you think, it's all about your mentality. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author s3rv0n Posted July 23, 2014 Author Share Posted July 23, 2014 Its ok it's actually pretty common. My questions for you are -- 1. Are you socializing enough? 2. Are you in good physical shape? If not I suggest you address those problems as they are probably the root of it all. By the way, starting a conversation with a woman out of thin air anywhere is not as hard as you think, it's all about your mentality. 1. Yes, but mostly with guys. 2. Yes. Link to post Share on other sites
kolleamm Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 1. Yes, but mostly with guys. 2. Yes. As long as you start socializing more with women and keep your standards realistic you should be fine. Just remember, you can meet them anywhere! It's all about having the guts to not let the opportunity pass and say something to them. I recommend finding a club, try meetup.com Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Eivuwan Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 I just want to point out that you think women are shallow but you're saving yourself for a really attractive girl. -_- 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author s3rv0n Posted July 23, 2014 Author Share Posted July 23, 2014 I just want to point out that you think women are shallow but you're saving yourself for a really attractive girl. -_- Because I think that my first time has to be meaningful, therefore I want to be attracted to the girl? I would talk, hang out, be friends with anyone, boy or girl, regardless of their social status or appearance. I met one girl that refused to even say hi back. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 The first thing you need to do is put yourself in situations where you have to interact with women. Once you get comfortable talking to them, then you can work on the next steps. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eivuwan Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 Because I think that my first time has to be meaningful, therefore I want to be attracted to the girl? I would talk, hang out, be friends with anyone, boy or girl, regardless of their social status or appearance. I met one girl that refused to even say hi back. Of course you have to be attracted to the girl, but you said "really attractive." What makes you think you are entitled to a "really attractive" girl? Most of us out there are average. Also, as someone with some experience, you will find someone to become more and more attractive as the emotional connection grows. I wonder if you are being too picky while you are complaining about the girls being shallow. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 (edited) You remind of someone who killed 6 girls the other day ...... He carried the same hate toward girls..Be careful of this road. Instead of hating girls because you can't get them. Try to change, open up, learn new things, lighten up a little bit. Talk to other girls who are nice and lovely, not just the hot ones who are mainly out of your league ..but the nice and OK girls that you tend to ignore just because they are not so pretty.. Talk to them not because you want to get in their pants, because yes we do sense that talk to them because they are human beings! Edited July 23, 2014 by Noproblem 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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