Good looking short guys creep me out! What happened to the rest of you!

[Glinda.Good]

Do you believe that if he had not been popular with women would he still have no issues with being short?

 

What kind of a question is that? According to you, it is impossible to be successful with women if you're short, and impossible to be unsuccessful with women if you're not short.

 

In his case, he did not let his SHORTcomings (heheh) dictate what his life would or would not be.

[Trane]

What kind of a question is that? According to you, it is impossible to be successful with women if you're short, and impossible to be unsuccessful with women if you're not short.

 

In his case, he did not let his SHORTcomings (heheh) dictate what his life would or would not be.

 

AND, short guys who don't let their "shortcomings" dictate their lives often get the short-man-syndrome/napoleon treatment when they strive to achieve just like the tall men.

 

If he acts subservient and accepts second or third place in life he's acting normal by default because apparently he's not a threat. This is accepted behaviour by the mass heightists.

[somedude81]

What kind of a question is that? According to you, it is impossible to be successful with women if you're short, and impossible to be unsuccessful with women if you're not short.

 

In his case, he did not let his SHORTcomings (heheh) dictate what his life would or would not be.

 

That's where I think you're wrong and that you have the wrong idea about me.

 

How would a man let his shortcomings (being short) dictate what his life would be?

 

Being taller would not have changed any of my actions. Only the results of those actions could have changed.

[Glinda.Good]

AND, short guys who don't let their "shortcomings" dictate their lives often get the short-man-syndrome/napoleon treatment when they strive to achieve just like the tall men.

 

If he acts subservient and accepts second or third place in life he's acting normal by default because apparently he's not a threat. This is accepted behaviour by the mass heightists.

 

Did you read my post about my husband?

 

Why concern yourself with "heightists" anyway. If they're not going to like you, fine. Next!

[Trane]

Did you read my post about my husband?

 

Why concern yourself with "heightists" anyway. If they're not going to likinjustice you, fine. Next!

 

Heightism is ubiquitous. It's been proven as an accepted prejudice that is best dealt with a blind eye. It's not important enough as a problem to be dealt with by those in power. Justified efforts have focused on the eradication of age, sex, and race discrimination.

 

Heightism is non-existent to those who are not direcly affected by it.

[iiiii]

Eh, I don't think that a woman 5'9+ would care all that much that a 5'6 guy wouldn't want to date her. So it's hardly less of an opportunity.

 

Nah, you misunderstand I think.

 

What I mean by opportunity is simply numbers. A 6 foot tall girl who only accepts dates from guys who are taller than her (which isn't an uncommon or unreasonable preference), is going to have fewer opportunities to date than a girl who will only date taller guys but is 5 foot tall. Simply because there are far fewer guys who fit the criteria of being taller than you are, when you are 6 foot tall.

 

Very tall girls, and very short guys, can have it pretty hard in the dating world, I've noticed.

 

Luckily for me, my sweetie doesn't mind that I'm (a little bit!) taller than him.

[somedude81]

Nah, you misunderstand I think.

 

What I mean by opportunity is simply numbers. A 6 foot tall girl who only accepts dates from guys who are taller than her (which isn't an uncommon or unreasonable preference), is going to have fewer opportunities to date than a girl who will only date taller guys but is 5 foot tall. Simply because there are far fewer guys who fit the criteria of being taller than you are, when you are 6 foot tall.

 

Very tall girls, and very short guys, can have it pretty hard in the dating world, I've noticed.

 

Luckily for me, my sweetie doesn't mind that I'm (a little bit!) taller than him.

 

If a woman is setting a rule that she will only date men who are 6' or taller, then that is something she's doing to herself. There is no lost opportunity.

 

That's the same thing as me setting a rule that I will only date women who have an F cup or larger.

 

People shouldn't set rules that exclude a major percentage of the other population and then complain that they can't find somebody who fits in the little box who also wants them.

[2.50 a gallon]

Trane

 

 

"those in power"

 

 

From your last post, it sounds as if you think that as a man, you are entitled, and wish that they would pass discrimination laws making it illegal for a woman to chose whom she desires for her mate.

It is in their DNA, to chose the man most likely to be the best father for their children.

Open your eyes, quite often I see tall women with short men. And they don't have to be all that good looking.

When I was in the dating scene, I saw it all of the time. One gal that I would have liked to date, was a friend of mine. She was taller, maybe 5' 9" and extremely good looking. Over the few years that I knew her she hardly ever got serious with any guy. And she dated the top of the heap, CPA's, one pilot, and several of the local DJ's

She finally settle down with a guy shorter than me, and not only that he had a Gorbachev spot that totally covered one cheek and his eye. Quite simply, he did not let his handicap affect him. He was a hard working go getter, and dated lots of good looking women. That was one of the things she liked about him, quite simply he had the balls to look her in the eye, and ask her out.

Edited August 1, 2014 by 2.50 a gallon

[iiiii]

That's the same thing as me setting a rule that I will only date women who have an F cup or larger.

 

Actually, it's the exactly same thing as a very short guy saying he'll only date women who are shorter than he is. Most very short guys I have known have generally ended up with women taller with them for that reason.

 

I think people can select which criteria they like when choosing a partner, but you're right, the pickier you are, the harder it will be to find someone who both fits the criteria and who desires you too.

 

If your criteria are important to you, the right person is worth waiting for, however. No point ending up with someone you don't desire or admire.

[somedude81]

Actually, it's the exactly same thing as a very short guy saying he'll only date women who are shorter than he is. Most very short guys I have known have generally ended up with women taller with them for that reason.

 

I think people can select which criteria they like when choosing a partner, but you're right, the pickier you are, the harder it will be to find someone who both fits the criteria and who desires you too.

 

If your criteria are important to you, the right person is worth waiting for, however. No point ending up with someone you don't desire or admire.

 

Even though I'm only 5'6, the majority of women are still shorter than me. So saying that I'd only date women shorter than me isn't a very stringent restriction, it's also one I don't have. A woman saying she'd only date guys over 6 feet tall is much more restrictive. That's the example I was trying to make by saying F cups, as very few women are a natural F or larger without being obese.

 

Getting back to height, my upper limit is 5'8. Any taller and I just look like a child compared to her.

[you_can_not_see_me]

This whole thread kind of makes me laugh. I'm not overly tall at 5"9 ... and I have never dated any women who is taller then me. It's almost like a default attraction thing - its not conscious - I just automatically go for girls who are shorter then me.

 

I find taller women attractive but its just like some built in thing where I don't approach them when I am sizing up a room. I went on a date a couple of weeks back with a girl who was taller then me - we connected via tinder so only saw pics and no idea of her height. We had a great night hit it off ... awesome. Actually probably the best date I had been on in a while. I never contacted her again.

 

She texted me a week ago - a really kind of pissed of txt message - obviously because I didn't text her after the date. I got the message and was like ... why the hell did you not text her after the date - she was hot - it was an awesome date...... too tall!

that's pretty self compromising, why do you shy away from taller girls? are you worried what other people might think if your GF is taller than you?

 

I personally would be totally fine with a girl who is slightly taller than me. The girl being taller doesn't make me short.

[mario_C]

I'm 6 ft exactly, and I would love a taller girlfriend. It's not a deal breaker or anything, I just think it would be hot.

 

Anyway, BOT: I don't think, say, Peter Dinklage or the other stars on the short *cough* end of this yardstick ever have to worry. The same rules of attractiveness apply, and the same excuses will be bandied about by those coming up short (oh, come on, it was sitting right there!) on the dating competitiveness field.

Edited August 3, 2014 by mario_C
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