Been with the same girl for 3 yrs and sometimes I feel I'm missing out on life

[UltraSonicTunnel]

Short background:

Both of us are 20 and in college

Lost my v-card to her while I wasn't her first but I got over it quickly

We hardly ever argue and it's overall a great relationship.

I love her a lot and my family has always liked her.

Definitely want to one day form a family with her.

 

However, for the past 3 months I've been having these brief thoughts about how I might be missing out on life and college. I do at times fantasize about what's it like feeling another girl or even kissing another.

 

Though I would never cheat, it kills me that I have these sudden fantasies. I've also been watching more porn whenever I'm not with her or she's working. Is it common to go through this? Any way I can get rid of them?

Edited July 24, 2014 by UltraSonicTunnel

[ExpatInItaly]

Are you still in love with her? People can and do outgrow relationships, especially when they're young. What you're experiencing is quite normal. It's hard to say whether it's a passing thing, or whether it indicates that you might be ready to open a new chapter of your life.

[UltraSonicTunnel]

Yes, I'm still are.

[d0nnivain]

You may be one of the lucky ones who found The One early.

 

This also may be your subconscious telling you this relationship has ended & it's time to move on.

 

Make a list of pros & cons. Include the emotional stuff on the list. Answer the old Ann Landers Q for yourself: would you be better off with her or without her?

[Omei]

I think those thoughts are very normal to have in my first five year relationship I wondered those questions a lot am I missing out etc and I was! the relationship was very poor. But ill tell you as someone who has been in a few long term relationships if you have one that you're in love with and things together are great dont let that go ever for a fly at the "what's it like" life you will miss and realize what you had.

 

Being with someone else isn't that great at all its just awkward, boring, emotionless until you care for them, but you already have that so hold on!