How do you know if the guy thinks you're a bad kisser?

[LifeandPerseverance]

I should start by saying I got kind of a late start in relationship/intimacy department. I didn't have my 1st kiss til I was 18 (I'm 23 now).

 

I thought I had a kissing style that just worked for me--I don't draw blood, stick my tongue in a guys mouth, etc. My ex boyfriend, who I started going out with a couple years later, announced to me shortly after one of our first kisses that I was a "biter' but that it was quote, "okay because he liked biters" (this was the guy who apparently was busy on POF during our whole relationship, and constantly had a changing sexual history--I'm assuming he was experienced). He told me towards the end of our relationship quote "You kiss totally different now than you kissed back then" (not sure if he meant this as an insult, but then again, this was the guy who looked at me around the same time and said, "You are nothing like the girl I went on that first date with for Italian food. I had no idea you were like this.")

 

 

Needless to say, this made me self conscious. After that relationship ended, I kissed a friend one weekend (and he was/is a real ladies man--with a "high number" he brags about and a callous/casual attitude towards women) and he again made the comment about me being a biter, and, "You only have like one kiss. You need more variety." This guy can be a real douche, so again, I'm not sure if I should take the comment to heart, or not? But, it made me super self conscious.

I've kissed a few guys since, and there were no complaints/comments/anything said.

 

 

Which brings me to present day. There's a guy I've been talking to for months (we've been far apart) and I REALLY like him--I haven't felt anything like this in years, I forgot I could feel THIS way. Anyways, we had our first kiss this week. We kissed many many times, and I've never enjoyed kissing someone THIS much. But now my self esteem issues are here. I know a bad first kiss can make or break it. It's been a while since I kissed someone. He NEVER made a comment about me being a biter (in fact, he IS one himself, and I love it) and he kept kissing me, and he texted me after he left, and we're still talking...But I'm wondering..How do you know if a guy thinks you're a bad kisser? Would he have said something like my ex and my douche friend? Did I ruin it somehow? This guy is much more experienced too (even more experienced than douche friend), but he's not a super expressive guy.

Edited July 25, 2014 by LifeandPerseverance

[Aaaaaahhhfffff]

Kissing is a sport. I love it. I ve been told I am a great kisser by a few woman. You can be the person leading or the person being kissed. Try letting him lead and pay attention to what he does. Tongue movement. Lip bitting and pulling. Switching side to side. Speed. Like slowly or when your being passionate. I always do what I want the girl to do hoping she will pick up on it. Also try kissing gently on the neck. Under and on the ear. Down to the collarbone. Pay attention to how his body and facial reacts to your lips on certain parts of the body. Also try resting your hand on his cheek. Or his chest. Hope to be of help. Good luck with your new man

[todreaminblue]

i think its more in what they are like when you are kissing them,no guy has told em i am a bad kisser and most fo the time they get an erection so i must be doing something right.....make the kisses playful when its a playful mood they are in.....if they need comfort make them soft and warm non invasive .......f you are feeling fire ....do what comes naturally dotn fore yourself to do anything you dont like yourself and its all good..shoving your tongue down soemones throat to me is just gross........and saliva drenched kisses are not really pleasant if you have to carry a bucket after to clean up yoru face.....nibbling ear lobes is fun.....kisses dont need to be just mouth kisses....neck even an arm kiss can be romantic.....collarbone defintely....deb