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Never have. If I'm with someone then she's the only one I will sleep with, I don't let temptation become a factor as I would not hang around other women while in a relationship.

 

Just wish my Ex felt the same way,lol.

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I've never cheated but I allowed myself to take an innocent crush and turn it into some feelings for somebody. It went both ways. Nothing ever happened - It was an online friendship and we TOLD eachother we felt something, talked about it, why we felt the way we did, but nothing came of it ofcourse. It was wrong to cross that line because we're both married.

 

In my eyes it was close to cheating because of the feelings involved. It was wrong for both of us to go there and things should have been left unsaid. I can't take it back but I do know it ain't gonna ever happen again. The positive thing about this though? I believe it happened for a reason, it opened both of our eyes to our home life and what issues were really going on there.

 

i'm glad someone else is honest around here.

 

How's this? Let's say it was a GOOD thing he and I never met. I wouldn't want it to ever happen-but when caught up in heat of the moment all 'normal' thoughts can fly out the window and it could have been too easy to become really selfish and think wtf, why not! Some things are just better left as a fantasy.

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Yes I cheated when I was separated from my daughters dad, never did fill the void not make me feel any better....lesson learned.

 

Did it again to run out of a 9 year marriage!

 

Foolish mistakes!!! He didn't know but then again he never told of his infidelity that eventually drained me and I said enough!

 

That is why I am wondering if I am the result in my present divorce of pay backs are a bit**!!!!

 

Will I ever do this to another human being, NO! History has repeated itself and I have learned a lesson and grown far wiser

 

That is why my cynical thought process on that once a cheater always a cheater!

I did it early in my years to where I am now!

 

But realization now is that I never have found the true love or the love I seek!

 

We do grow up and finally come to truths about oneself!

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Originally posted by Mz. Pixie

Yeah, I cheated. Two time deal with a long time friend during my marriage. I was at the point where I was so lonely and depressed I would have done anything. Didn't get caught during the time, didn't feel guilty. It scared me however because I knew if I was unhappy enough to cheat that I might do something even scarier!

 

Now that I'm in the middle of my d it's out in the open. There have been horrible consequences! Everyone is hurt and it's awful. I still don't feel guilty though. It's something I think I needed to do at the time. I wouldn't ever do it again though knowing what I know now. It's just not worth it!

 

No one thinks that they will cheat- everyone says, "Not me" That was me too up until 6 months before it happened. I had always said, that will never be me. NO ONE knows what they would do in that situation until you get there. I had had plenty of chances before and always turned them down. It was just something about that time.

 

NEVER AGAIN!

 

Why did you end up telling? I mean if you are already in the divorce - why didn't you just keep it to yourself?

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Originally posted by whichwayisup

I've never cheated but I allowed myself to take an innocent crush and turn it into some feelings for somebody. It went both ways. Nothing ever happened - It was an online friendship and we TOLD eachother we felt something, talked about it, why we felt the way we did, but nothing came of it ofcourse. It was wrong to cross that line because we're both married.

 

In my eyes it was close to cheating because of the feelings involved. It was wrong for both of us to go there and things should have been left unsaid. I can't take it back but I do know it ain't gonna ever happen again. The positive thing about this though? I believe it happened for a reason, it opened both of our eyes to our home life and what issues were really going on there.

 

 

 

How's this? Let's say it was a GOOD thing he and I never met. I wouldn't want it to ever happen-but when caught up in heat of the moment all 'normal' thoughts can fly out the window and it could have been too easy to become really selfish and think wtf, why not! Some things are just better left as a fantasy.

 

That is interesting --- I know how you feel when it comes to that ---

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That is interesting --- I know how you feel when it comes to that ---

 

Like to know your thoughts so feel free to PM me on that one...

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Oh believe me, I didn't tell.............

 

Someone who I thought was a friend told because I think she felt like everything needed to be out in the open and it was her job to take care of that.

 

Actually, I think she was jealous because I had guys running after me and she didn't but that's another story.........

 

Once STBXH got a sniff he ran with it, even though I didn't leave him for this guy. He wanted full disclosure. He got it I guess. I'm paying for my mistake. Gonna get screwed in the divorce because I'm tired of getting dragged through the mud with this.

 

Get this, she doesn't know that I know it was her. I'm going to bide my time until my paperwork is final then lean over in her face and say, "I hope you've got as much time to watch your back as you did to meddle in my business because that's what it's gonna take to protect yourself".

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I have kissed a few men wen I was with my ex. Why? I was afraid of what I might be missing out - I started dating him when I was 19 and remained with him until I was 23.

 

Funny thing is it actually looked like he was "the one"... We were even living together and all. The first time I did it I told him about this guy who had the hots for me. He didn't want to come with me to my parties with my friends, he was making no attempt to make my friends his. Soon after that, I broke up with him (3 months). We got back together, but I was still mad at him. Went on a trip to the Czeck Republic, met this cool guy at a seminar and spent the evening in one hot club... I had fun, but realised I was too weak to actually leave my bf at the time.

 

So I went back with him. It lasted 2 more years. First year after the break up was great, he was indeed what I was hoping to find in a guy. The next year was a total mess. I ended up leaving the country, continued in a LDR for another 6 months (saw eachother 10 days) and then broke it off.

 

 

 

KArma karma karma: my current bf was tempted to cheat on me a few weeks ago - the girl actually tried to kiss him. Several times. He confessed me in detail about it immediately after. Hurt like HELL!!!!! Oh, well...

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Heh... no, never have I never cheated in a relationship. I have always ended a relationship before pursuing something else. Honor?... nah, just how things should be done in my book. :cool:

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Originally posted by alphamale

no, we're talking penetrtion here

 

What's penetrtion? :laugh: I have never slept with another man while I was with someone, but I have kissed and fondled other men when I was back with my ex-H for that period of time. After making out a couple times with a guy I met, I'd go see my ex to get laid. That's pretty bad in my eyes, but the relationship was on the skids, he was treating me like crap, and as far as I'm concerned, pushed me into someone else's arms.

 

I can't have casual sex. It's not a moral thing, just a level of comfort I need to reach with someone before I go there. So when I was done "making out," I'd call my ex for the sex part. What a hussy I was. :lmao:

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:p

Originally posted by laRubiaBonita

Not this year! and it is my resolution! :D

 

LRB pls post some more messages so that you can become old and i can PM you :p

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Originally posted by laRubiaBonita

Not this year! and it is my resolution! :D

 

:lmao:

 

You ain't right. And I know who you are. ;) Miss PMless.

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Numerous times w/o being caught - to tell you the truth, my self-worth suffered - i started to wonder if i could ever be happy w/just one man. Now the answer to that is YES (once i find him - haha).

 

I am a firm believer in not relieving my guilt on an unsupecting partner - boy, i'd feel a whole lot better while i crushed him - this is not something i would do.

 

I've come to believe that temptation is, well, tempting - LOL!

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i did cheat once before i felt so guilty though that i confessed the very next day . it broke his heart that i cheated but he told me he was still able to trust me becouse i told him .. sine then i have never cheated i find there is no point to it . if u are with someone and happy and want to be with them then why cheat it only hurts the both of you :)

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I personally have never cheated, but looking back I think that my ex may have cheated on me before I broke up with her last year.

 

 

Anyways, so long as she was 100% honest with me, didn't do it more than once, told me right away, apologized profusely, was truly remorseful, and promised never to do it again....I think I could still be with a woman who cheated on me. Especially if I'm really in love with her.

 

Call me weak-minded if you must but I'm telling the honest to god truth.

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Nope. I haven't. But my ex cheated on me. That wasn't fun. I want to never cheat, that's my plan. My ex cheated on every girl he had ever been with- you'd think that would be a sign to me to get out right?? I know. But you know how it goes- love can be blind. And stupid. :o

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