pink_sugar Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 As many of you may have seen my previous posts, my dad is incredibly entitled and narcissistic...even though he abused my brother and I most of our lives...verbally and physically. I had a conversation with him last week in which I established clear boundaries with him and stood up to him finally. He constantly make demands of me to do what he wants at his beck and call despite living 3 hours away. He calls me incessantly to brag or talk about himself. Well, he didn't like me asserting myself, so a week later he calls my brother to complain about me and start crap...a week after we talked. He was telling my brother that I am on his bad list and that I'm not inheriting anything. (He also had the same conversation with me about my brother ) and then he proceeded to call my grandmother and tell her a bunch of crap about my brother and I and how we don't give gifts and other random crap. I'm not sure if I just need to get this out or if I'm looking for advice, but he always manages to make me feel guilty even though deep down I know I didn't do anything wrong by asserting myself. Especially when I HAVE given my dad gifts and he never seems to appreciate them or pretend I don't give gifts. I'm so glad I moved away from him. Ugh Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 It's often said that we teach people how to treat us. I believe adult relationships are best when both parties treat each other with respect. I had to go through this with my mother. My 21 year old daughter is going through it with her mother. These people have to learn that ... yes, I'm your child, but we have to treat each other with respect or our relationship is going to suffer. I think you should continue to assert yourself and work toward building a better relationship with your father. Setting and reinforcing those boundaries between what's acceptable and what's unacceptable is often the best thing for both of you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author pink_sugar Posted July 30, 2014 Author Share Posted July 30, 2014 Thanks for your input. Yesterday, I found out my dad called off his BBQ kickoff for running for city council. As I mentioned in another thread, he offered to compensate us for gas since he gave us short notice and it would be difficult for us to drive down for it. Anyways, I contacted him and he said the BBQ is suddenly off...just a few days before the event. I found out he dropped off the election as well from a friend. It would be nice of him to actually call me and let me know this event is off, considering he made a huge deal and demanded that I attend. His lack of communication and respect for my time is ridiculous. He even wanted me to drop everything to attend....and suddenly he decides not to go through with the event and doesn't tell anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
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