Blueeyes_04 Posted February 23, 2005 Share Posted February 23, 2005 Hey Everyone, I have been on here before and its a shame that I am speaking about the same ex!! In anycase, my ex bf'd broke up with me over a year ago!!! We talked once in a while and all the while, he was always interested in what I was doing and who/if I was dating! In anycase, we recently spoke and he wanted to go out for coffee! I thought it would be fine. I had plans to go out on a date the next night and I told him that as he wanted to get together that night. So we looked to the middle of the week. He asked me if I ever thought about us going on a date again (b/c he had) and he said that things that have happened in the past do not seem as bad now. In anycase, as soon as I got off the phone, he sent me a text message saying that the only way we could go out for even a coffee/movie is if I was not dating anyone! The fact is that I am not dating anyone seriously...just a few dates! Big deal! He wants me not to be dating anyone out of respect for the guy if we plan on going out for coffeee!!! WEIRD? SOUND LIKE JEALOUSY?? Obviously I didn't buy the whole story so I questioned him on it. He basically didn't want to explain himself again (probably could not think of the same excuse!). It ended up being that the guy I was to go out with the next night had cancelled and my ex asked me why I didn;t call him to go out???? HUH? You guys are probably as confused as I am! Anyways, we spoke on the Monday and he said he would call me on the weekend and we can figure something out! Then, when he come online (MSN), he told me that going out would not be a good idea because he had met someone the night that we had first spoken (2 days ago). What the heck is that? One minute, he wants to hang out, the other time, he doesn't if I am dating someone and now he definetly can't because he met someone? Sound werid? I am confused just reading about it. I ended up sending him a quick email telling him that I am happy he is dating, its only healthy after a year of breaking up! What else was I supposed to say???? What the heck is this guy doing? Does he really want to date me again or does he just not want me with anyone else? Not with anyone else b/c he wants to get back? What do u think? Keep in mind he did the breaking up! Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted February 23, 2005 Share Posted February 23, 2005 if he asks you out again, tell him no. especially if he is dating someone! But tell him you do not think it is a good idea. It seems he cannot even deal with the thought of going out for coffee with you! Link to post Share on other sites
roxy_1980 Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 My gut feeling is he is afraid that you're moving on first. He's trying to beat you to the punch, but has no prospects (I suspect this woman is made up) and needs to delay you till he can pull himself together. Coffee was a ploy to make you fixate on him and forget about this new guy. But I doubt that he's genuine about really getting call together. Sounds like nothing but games to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blueeyes_04 Posted February 24, 2005 Author Share Posted February 24, 2005 The whole thing about beating me to the punch (ie. finding someone) is a joke considering its been over a year since we have broken up! People have been telling me that he is trying to make sure that I am not dating anyone so when he decides he wants to get back together....he will try to! As long as I am dating someone, it will make it harder for him! So you guys think he does not want to get back together? I have moved on, but the curiosity has gotten the best of me! Keep in mind that he has done this in the past.....has said he has been dating someone.....its as though he is trying to make me jealous...... Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 Originally posted by Blueeyes_04 So you guys think he does not want to get back together? I have moved on, but the curiosity has gotten the best of me! Keep in mind that he has done this in the past.....has said he has been dating someone.....its as though he is trying to make me jealous...... i doubt if he wants "back together", but it does sound as if he has taken the "i'll be damned if anyone else takes her" approach. meaning HE is jealous tat other guys are with you, when it could be him. Even though he will not be with you, he stills sees you as his. Link to post Share on other sites
RedTigerNY Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 wow he sounds very immature......... its as if he doesnt want to admit - even to himself - that he still has feelins for u. my friend acted like this when he was dumped by a girl and she tried to get back 2gether w him and he got upset cos he was confused.... and still liked her. he didnt know how to expres himself so he just showd it thru jealousy when she talkd about other guys. maybe try talkin to him about all this, have a heart to heart or somethin...... cos that helped with my friend and his ex . by th way theyre back together now, they just put everythin on the table and talked). it turned out for good in that case. hope that helps........ Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blueeyes_04 Posted February 24, 2005 Author Share Posted February 24, 2005 I actually had a little bit of a heart to heart with him last night. He really didn't come out with anything but I made it clear that even if I had any kind of feelings for him, I would not come straight out and tell him. I have done that before and he was really cruel about it (that was like a while ago though). I said that he did the breaking up, so he should make the first move. I do not want to take the chance that he gets back together with me just becuase he felt sorry for me.....etc.SOunds crazy, but thats me! I also said that "we are done, this is what you wanted....right??" He was so quiet for a bit and then said "I guess so" I have no idea....if he was so sure about us not being together, I am sure it would have been a definite answer! Right? Link to post Share on other sites
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