Am I reading to much

[livingnightmare]

How is she isolating herself? Honestly, I think she's fine and in her own way is asking you to back off and leave her alone , she will contact you when she feels like it. You care and she is being bitchy to you.

 

Just stop. This woman is NOT a real or true friend. Those who genuinely care do not go around saying stuff like she has.

 

 

 

As you should and it's good you're seeing the writing on the wall about her.

 

Take that 'me' time and think about what it is you're actually getting from this friendship. Sounds like it's doing more damage to you than good.

 

Your right, I'm going to stop I only made this contact because she has been the one to contact me relentlessly for a very good while now.

 

I'm getting zero from the friendship and you are right it is taking from me as I am now feeling the cost. I'm done with it.

 

I wont be answering any calls if she ever bothers to call as I feel like I'm being faded out, well I clearly am. She has to come up with some massive apology by msg for me to even think of continuing this sham of a one way friendship.

 

This has to stop, I feel a lull in my mood that I havent had in a long time, really thought I'd found a real friend, to be honest I feel a little gutted my judgment is always so wrong, and people have no qualms using and discarding me.

 

Feels strange when you let someone into your life in whatever for a while to become routine then just change over night.

Edited August 3, 2014 by livingnightmare
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[jeffmeyers]

He he, despite it all, this one is hard to let go, isn't she?

[livingnightmare]

He he, despite it all, this one is hard to let go, isn't she?

Lol yes I will admit it, I just thought we had something good there what ever it was, I'm just totally stumped how we are the best of friends for a good while then the next day I'm just totally forgotten and discarded, I just don't get it. Oh well, I'm not going to beg to be friends with someone who can dispose of me just like that.

 

Disappointed quiet a bit. I went down to her house last week,I said I didn't feel like it, but she got her 3 year old daughter to talk me into coming down on the phone and I had my arm twisted, I just couldn't say no, even went with her and her son to her 3 year old daughters nursery graduation just last week, I wouldn't have even started this thread if I had stuck to my feeling of not going.

 

I've been her only shoulder to lean on when ever shes down, never not had time for her and its been a lot of times, I've never said a bad word to her, put her down, I've helped her if shes needed help or advice as best I can give and I didn't expect anything more than friendship, and thought I found it once I got over my initial short lived crush.

 

Just goes to show you never know anyone. I'll get over it, it just sucks a little at the moment.

[livingnightmare]

After a day she started texting, I didn't respond till after I finished work and she seemed back to normal again. The next day came and I sent a simple message asking her if she still has this bad headache she kept going on about and all I got was a thumbs up.

 

I know with her a thumbs up is a blow off as shes told me how she uses it on people.

 

Not heard nothing from her since and I'll be damned If I'm going to beg for friendship and contact her.

 

The thoughts at the beginning of this thread have completely 100% gone, and those are the thoughts she planted in me, the thoughts that she has now planted in me are purely negative.

 

What kind of person just discards their friends at the drop of a hat, friends you have contact with every day and goto for advice, support etc constantly.

 

This is more of an update than anything as in my eyes this case is shut and closed. I was going to delete her from social media and my phone, but I'm thinking that would look a bit petty.

 

Still a bit stumped how this all happened to be honest, I guess it just goes to show you really never know anyone. Looks like I was being used for attention and emotional support, even If it is just a case of shes spending time more with family thats fair enough, but to just lock someone off in an instant is not the sign of a good friend at all.

 

As much as I don't want to say this, Im starting to see why shes a single mom of 2 children from different daddys, who has been the OW in 2 LTR's? Has worked as a stripper, has been in abusive relationships, seems to love drama, but says how much she hates it, always telling me how all her friends let her down, then she tells me how good they are to her, then repeat. The list is endless I was going to type it up, but whats the point, I've waisted enough calories typing up this thread on her already

 

The more I look at this, I feel I got a close escape, she done her thing to make a slight crush develop in me (thank God its gone), and if that had continued and something did happen between us I would be getting involved or have a growing crush on a woman with red flags flying out of every orifice, armpit and toenail, this could only have ended bad for me.

 

I think thats the end of this one thanks for reading.

[whichwayisup]

As much as I don't want to say this, Im starting to see why shes a single mom of 2 children from different daddys, who has been the OW in 2 LTR's? Has worked as a stripper, has been in abusive relationships, seems to love drama, but says how much she hates it, always telling me how all her friends let her down, then she tells me how good they are to her, then repeat. The list is endless I was going to type it up, but whats the point, I've waisted enough calories typing up this thread on her already

 

So you see the friendship with you (or whatever it is going on between you two) is a very unhealthy dynamic. It's affecting you in a negative way. True and real friendships don't make one feel like crap or feel used!

 

One sided crushes don't work out for nice friendships. Even more so since she is aware of your crush and goes on a power trip as she knows how to manipulate you so she can have an ego feed.

 

I'd go so far as to not contact her and then when asks what is up and why you're distant, tell her that you think it's best to not keep in touch anymore. You don't owe her a long explanation either. She will know why, but that won't stop her from trying to woo you back..Selfishly!

[preraph]

Oh, that last bit of info, her being a stripper at one time, pretty much explains it all. I have an old friend who was a stripper and she's fine in some respects, but certain patterns never go away. She always wants guys frothing over her and at 50 still wears very low cut blouses to show her cleavage. She is married and not cheating best I could tell, but she actively sought male admiration. She even has one guy left over from her "paying" days who had a thing for her all these years that she says is a friend and he takes her to things he gets tickets for. So she's strung him along all these years.

 

For strippers, the only good thing besides money they got from the job is a feeling of power over men. Most of them (estimated 85%) have some sort of abuse in their history or parents with really poor boundaries, etc. Yes, there are supposedly exceptions, but I've seen some in action having been on lots of tour buses, and they're attention whores. She is never going to stop wanting you panting after you and never going to do anything about it in all probability. She is messed up and YOU need to stop thinking it's you. The only thing you should take on from this is not to date strippers, even retired ones.