mysticrain Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 Hi guys. I need your advice. How long do i wait till i demand that i meet his friends or anyone from his family? He doesnt spend his weekends with me...most of the time i just meet with him when he is free.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mysticrain Posted February 24, 2005 Author Share Posted February 24, 2005 typo error..it should be introduce Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 Is he married.. and I mean not to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mysticrain Posted February 24, 2005 Author Share Posted February 24, 2005 well when i call his house he doesnt seem to be married. He still lives with his parents/family...Oh yeah when we were talking on the phone someone called him on his cellphone and i heard it around 12 midnight. Do you think someone who wants business would call at such an hour? Cause his phone is for personal use only . Do you think he has another girl?I havnt met his friends at all .. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 You don't think he's married.. How long have you known this guy? This doesn't look good... Link to post Share on other sites
Author mysticrain Posted February 24, 2005 Author Share Posted February 24, 2005 ive known him for 6 months only. well i will keep you updated. but for now i havnt met anyone nor know where his family works cause he wont tell and one more thing he never tells me his salary. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 Originally posted by mysticrain ive known him for 6 months only. well i will keep you updated. but for now i havnt met anyone nor know where his family works cause he wont tell and one more thing he never tells me his salary. Not knowing his salary is fine - we do this to avoid goldiggers For the rest, if you have been dating for 6 months I would expect you to know everyone. ReluctantJuliette and I had been presented to almost all of each others relationship circles by the end of 6 weeks of going out. Link to post Share on other sites
_Saffy_ Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 why would you need to know his salary?? why would anyone even ask......if he offers that info then fine.....but you should never ask that! also, you shouldnt demand that you meet his friends/family either, because demanding stuff always makes people defensive. i would be seriously concerned about why he is so secretive though. Link to post Share on other sites
EIN Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 If you have not met one of his Family/friends, you are not his girlfriend. Sorry but guys that wants you as a girlfriend wants you to be in a part of their lives whether its some formal outings with his co-workers, friends or family. The phone call you mentioned is a red flag. What "business happens" at 12 midnight? unless hes some CEO, I can understnad on details with final mergers or something... He IS DEFINITELY hiding soemthing from you. Do some investigation, ask him questions about his lifestyle, bank it on memory and look for holes when he repeats it in another conversation of that sort soem time later. Right now, if you have been sleeping with him, STOP or you can just go straight to the table and in a good manner, address the need to meet his family to be recognized as his girlfriend. If he comes up with excuses, then sorry, you know what that means... Keep us updated. Damn these type of guys make the rest of us look bad. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 Originally posted by EIN If you have not met one of his Family/friends, you are not his girlfriend. Sorry but guys that wants you as a girlfriend wants you to be in a part of their lives whether its some formal outings with his co-workers, friends or family. Exactly. I was dying to show ReluctantJuliette off to friends and family. I was soooo convinced that she was the most wonderful girl in the world and I wanted everyone to know that she was with me. I got the same treatment from her btw. Damn these type of guys make the rest of us look bad. Yup. Give us his address mysticrain, and Ein and I will go sort him out JOKE! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mysticrain Posted February 26, 2005 Author Share Posted February 26, 2005 guys i never asked his salary not once and not ever..but there were times that it would be part of the conversation but he just skips it..well i just shrug it off cause i really dont care...yap at 12midnight...i got confuse also why there was someone caling him at that time..and also he never invites me over to his house to be introduce to his family...i dont want to volunteer ..i just think that it should be voluntary on his part...On our last date which was thursday i met up with him on starbucks near his office and he has his car park in front of his office..we were holding hands from starbucks but when it was right outside his office..he let go of my hand..as if he was embarass of me...those stuff really hurts me...and also when he sees some of his coworkers he would let go of my hand..i felt like he is embarass of me..And ever since we became a couple when we go on a date we never talk about us...all we talk about is his work, my work,the situation of his aunt, how his house hunting went ...but there was never the topic about us..Everytime we go out he hurts me in his simple ways...i felt like he is treating me as a friend and someone he can sleep with...and we will only talk about us when im upset about what he did and he will apologize that is the only time ..but if im not upset we go back to the same routine...talk about work...blah blah..things that aren't important to me...i was never ever invited over to his family parties...they do a lot of party..reunions..and so on...dissappointing.. Link to post Share on other sites
EIN Posted February 28, 2005 Share Posted February 28, 2005 You just elaborated at your frustrations with him, as mentioned read my advice as posted. So far, as of now, you are not his girlfriend. Sorry to say but you seem to fit the description of "The other woman" Link to post Share on other sites
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