IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 I just became friends with this girl about 2 weeks ago. She is awesome to hang out with BUT ALL SHE DOES IT WINE! I mean every time i see her she's bitching that her BF didn't call her or her best friend hasn't talked to her in 2 months or her ex still calls her and when her ex doesn't call her THATS IT..........THE WORLD STOPS!!!!!!!And every time i see her, there's a new story........."OHHHHH Mike didn't do this" or "Matt did this to me" or "My sister is doing this" and "I'm so mad cause......." OMG SHUT THE F*CK UP!!! And almost every time she tell me her sob story.......she cries! I mean full blown gasping for air crying! Next I'm gonna hear that her shoes laces are untied! I try not to listen to her cause I'm not all about that. I'm so laid back and i just don't care for petty stuff like that. Do i say something to her or just keep ignoring it and say " F*CK it, just go with the flow" (thats what i say to pass the moment)? Any advice?
GirlDown Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 isn't this the one whose boyfriend-but-not-actual-boyfriend you want? then cut her off. you don't want her, you want him. i CANNOT STAND people like that, everything is a catastrophe that you simply NEED to hear about. it's pathetic and exhausting to deal with someone who acts that way. maybe the guy she's seeing feels the same way...it would be a good reason for both of you to tell her to get lost and then you sail into the sunset... okay so maybe that's a bit dramatic, but still! you never know!! ugh, i cannot tolerate whiny people.
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted February 24, 2005 Author Posted February 24, 2005 LOL DAMN STRAIGHT.......... This is the one whose BF i want. Good idea! Hopfully he feels the same way and can't deal with those kind of poeple! Thanx girl!
d'Arthez Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 I can understand you don't like the whining, and the moaning and the bitching. Whining is in general a symptom of insecurity. Wonder what it was caused by. Has she always been that way, or has she grown to be this way, because of her boyfriend? Just asking, because if you act upon your desires, you might discover that he is willing to play psychological warfare on you. She is awesome to hang out with BUT ALL SHE DOES IT WINE! This statement in itself does not make sense. How can she be awesome to hang out with, if she only whines? Is it perhaps the benefit of the non-committed boyfriend she has?
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted February 24, 2005 Author Posted February 24, 2005 Originally posted by d'Arthez This statement in itself does not make sense. How can she be awesome to hang out with, if she only whines? Is it perhaps the benefit of the non-committed boyfriend she has? Sorry.....let me rephrase that.... When shes not wining, shes an awesome person to hang out with. And he's not her BF
d'Arthez Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 And he's not her BF I know the strange situation, you are involved in, as I responded to your thread of yesterday. Non-committed boyfriend seemed for me a reasonably short term, to express somewhat the strange relationship he and your friend of 2 weeks seem to have. My original question remains. Has she always been a whiner, or is it caused by the boy you want so desperately to have sex with? It is a very strange relationship the two of them share. Possibly she wants a relationship, and he wants to f*ck around. But it seems like he wants to have her benefits without having to put up with her. And of course he lacks the honesty to tell her that he wants to f*ck around. Of course if this situation exists for a long time, it will have severe influence on her state of mind. What may have been a fairly confident young woman, may now grow to be a wreck, because of his cruelty. I don't know the only one who can find out is you IHNFC. If he had nothing to do with it that will mean one less worry for you. Don't ask him, because he will definetely say he had nothing to do with it, as he wants your p*ssy you know that. The risk is of course that he can play the same type of destructive games on you, and are you willing to risk that, on top of the friendship for a bit of action? He seems to want some action with you too, even though there is an expectancy on part of this girl that he will not be with someone else. How much do you value the friendship? How much do you value her as a person? Find out where the whining originated from. From her friends, relatives et cetera. And if you want this player so badly, why are you wasting your time hanging out with her? She won't appreciate it at all if you go after 'her man', as she still sees this player that way.
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted February 24, 2005 Author Posted February 24, 2005 But the BF is not the issue here. I dont think she wines around him b/c there not a couple and if she did than he would just stop f*cking her and move on to me! lol But seriously, shes a nice girl and if she keeps it up I'm sorry but I'm just going to have to take her BF. LOL We'll see what happens!
d'Arthez Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 He may not be the issue, but he may be the cause of her issues. Relationship dynamics.
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted February 24, 2005 Author Posted February 24, 2005 Originally posted by d'Arthez He may not be the issue, but he may be the cause of her issues. Relationship dynamics. It could be, But its also her ex and her sister and her friend and her dog and cat and her father and her car and her hair and her nails and her keys her clothes, did I make my point?
d'Arthez Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 I understand what you are thinking. But if I should suffer a bad breakup, I would not only take it out on my ex, and make statements about women in general, complain about people who don't treat me with the courtesy I feel entitled to. Where they ever an item in the eyes of him? And her? Two different answers, and you know he has been f*cking her mind. I know you want to f*ck him, but at least you should make certain he does not f*ck your mind.
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted February 24, 2005 Author Posted February 24, 2005 Thanx for the help D! Your right, lets just see where it takes us. But i do NOT want to be there if he ever leaves her!
d'Arthez Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 I know you just want to f*ck the guy. I only want you to be careful enough, that you don't risk your sanity. No f*ck is worth that.
GirlDown Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 i think it would be pretty hard to know whether the friend was always that way when she's only known her for two weeks... as far as you know, IHNFC, she might not have always been so annoying. the point is, she's annoying now, and that's all you have to base your thoughts on. i might know someone who acts like a total azzhole, and even if i found out they were perfect and fun and all good things before they met me, it doesn't do a whole lot for me to know how they were before when it's nothing but azzholishness now.
d'Arthez Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Concerning the friendship you are right GirlDown. But I suggested the possibilty that she turned out this way because he may have f*cked her mind. Not nice, but seeing as she somehow feels she is in a relationship with this boy, and the boy professes himself willing to hook up with IHNFC, I would not rule out this possibility. It may be hard to find out. But if IHNFC wants to f*ck him, she'd better know for certain f*cking her mind is not a part of the deal. Better to be save than sorry.
greeneyedgirl23 Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 I think that if you have only been friends for 2 weeks and she is already bugging you this much, then you should look at this as a blessing to you. you can get rid of an annoying new person, and go for a guy you think you would be good with!!!
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