snoop_dawg22 Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 So my kind of SO comes over Tuesday night by persuasion of a naughty little txt message I send him ( visuals included ). We do are thing, which is fine with me. The next day we leave and I get a peck and I say I heart you, he says nothing. Why do I continue to do this to myself? Really people. Anyway. He usually calls me at work and he hasn't ( not since Monday ) and that was just to see if I was upset with him. So I'm wondering now. Once he starts acting shady there is usually a good excuse.. and I can only think of one. Man and I'm supposed to be going to Vegas with this person. I am having serious second thoughts about everything now. The trip, us, him, me. Gosh this sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 I have a hard time understanding that you're a booty call when you both have planned a trip to Vegas together. Maybe the idea that you have now approached the love topic scared him? Having no idea how long you've dated it may be that you're moving faster than he is in the relationship and he's a little apprehensive with how he responds to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted February 24, 2005 Author Share Posted February 24, 2005 We dated for 2 years. He's been in my life for 5. He knows how I feel. I told myself to stop expressing how I feel and just go with the flow. We broke up in Aug/Sept. But yet and still we are somewhat together. See each other as much as possible. We've broken up one time before for 2 1/2 mos and during that time he's kissed another chick, contacted his ex, and went out with someone from his prior pt job. And what did I do. Waited on him to come crawling back. So lack of contact like this gets my brain going. B/C during that break up the only time he would NC me was when someone else was in the picture. So I'm just ready to tell him to just back off and leave me alone. I don't like what it's doing to me. Hopes get up, hopes get crushed. It's a terrible feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 You sound more like an ex-girlfriend turned FWB. If he can't commit to a serious relationship with you, which appears to be what you want, then you should consider following through with your plan to end things. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted February 24, 2005 Share Posted February 24, 2005 You had a relationship and you had sex all the time and you probably got to know his body inside and out. He likes that. Some guys always come back to the ex because it's familiar, they don't have to do much if they now the ex will take them, and they know that the pressure is off for sex and you already know their body so it's going to be good sex. In most cases. And guys will continue to keep coming back and telling you what you want to hear for as long as you let them. You have the control here, he doesn't. He doesn't say I love you back and you've been waiting around for a while, the only way out of it is if you say I 'm done with this I deserve better. You never know about the trip. Thr trip might actually be what you need to get over him. You might go and actually spend time with him ( not just come over for sex) and realize that hes not the one for you. And you would have the strength to walk away after the trip. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted February 24, 2005 Author Share Posted February 24, 2005 It is so a FWB relationship right now. Sometimes he'll reply back when I say that I love him, sometimes he's the one to say it. But I agree that he's getting the benefits and I'm stuck trying to figure out the relationship. He and his family are going to Vegas and he asked if I'd go. It's wierd b/c I went to his mom's b-day dinner and she kept making little remarks about me and him and marriage. So I was thinking yeah I'm in good. But then she's just being a mom and I think she can see that I am good for him. But I can't tell him. He's going to have to figure that out on his own and the only way will be NC. Maybe let him be with other chicks ( easier said than done ). But I was thinking of going on the trip and then after telling him that I think we should back off. I've told him this before and he said I was just acting crazy and looking for a title. So now I think that he is totally playing me and I'm getting tired of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 you need to just cut things off with this guy and not be used as his semen depository. It seems clear to me he doesnt have a real interest in a relationship with you and only likes you being there to hump. Link to post Share on other sites
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