is this a good way of approaching my life?

[uongy]

any opinions would be great on this.

 

ive been doing a lot of thinking,especially after my friend rejected me.there have been a lot of questions in my head......why do i want a girl so bad......what is the point.......why do i feel so sad.....why am my friends distant.....etc etc

 

at first,i thought it was all my fault.this was natural,i was depressed after the rejection.

 

now that i have a clearer head,im thinking that i need to improve myself to be worthy of a decent girl in my life.

 

about why i need a girl,i guess its the loneliness factor.im a lone child,always played by myself when i was a kid.i have many friends,but i often find it difficult to get really close to people and to et people close to me because im so used to having my space.the only time i really felt close to someone was when i had a long distnce girlfriend,and we would talk loads about anything daily.

 

anyway,i was thinking i should improve myself,concentrate on the matters i have rised as well as a few others and see where i go.please note,im not trying to improve myself with the aim of getting a partner,i guess improving myself will make me a more desirable person.its not my aim to improve myself to get a girlfriend.

 

any thoughts?

[d'Arthez]

Yes, you should improve yourself. That is always the right course. As a side effect, it will get you to be more desirable, and improve your chances of finding a decent girl.

 

Do things you find interesting, and allow you to learn more about yourself. To name but a few possibilites, and assuming we are a bit similar:

1) read literature

2) attend classes at the university. With a subject close to interpersonal psychology you could also gain insights in the motivations that underly the behavior of your friends. If you have an interest in trying bookkeeping, try that.

3) try to go out and interact with people in new settings. If you have an interest in art, attend exhibitions. If you have an interest in dancing, try dancing. Et cetera.

4) spend time with friends

5) other things you really want

6) thinking is good! Reflect on your life. Where are you, and where do you want to be? Are you getting closer to your goal? Do you need to change your goals? Et cetera.