Summershirt Posted August 2, 2014 Share Posted August 2, 2014 I feel ****ing angry.....really really angry.....I cannot be bothered anymore...I always get hurt no matter what! I am really pissed off, I am not doing friendships or relationships anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 3, 2014 Share Posted August 3, 2014 Literally everyone gets rejected. You've got to learn to handle it while keeping your dignity intact. If you'd stopped and waited to see if there was a response instead of calling her to check up on if she was really there or not, you still wouldn't have the girl, but she wouldn't have anything bad to say about you. No one likes confrontations and for women they can be scary so they mostly avoid them and that, yes, can seem like they're not being straightforward. But not answering you and avoiding is straightforward enough on brand-new relationships. You can't always get hurt because she knows you're not a match when you're hoping you are. It's never the right thing to continue texting or calling when someone hasn't returned your text or call yet. Yes, there's waiting, but it's better than all the excuses and confusion, isn't it? No muss, no fuss, no reason for them to badmouth you to friends. And then you walk away and just move on because obviously, it was not going to happen. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Summershirt Posted August 4, 2014 Author Share Posted August 4, 2014 (edited) I kind of understand.... I don't know why you think it was not going to happen. It was clear me to for a long time that she was into me but I kept my distance because I fear that I would get hurt (I have so many times) but she seemed so genuine that I let my guard down and let her in. I understand that because of her depression that she isn't in the best frame of mind at the moment but because I have been there too in the past, I worried about her so did the silly thing of calling her on another number. I went to see her with flowers and to say sorry and explain myself and we had a chat. She kept saying "where do we go now"...I told her how I felt and what I wanted and asked her if she was free that night, she said she only had an hour free so we arranged for the following week. Then she has cut me off again and I haven't heard a word since. She also told me that he ex- had stalked her and tried to kill her and that she was worried that I would turn out like him. I understand that but I really ain't like that. I just did a wrong thing but the right reason. I really like her and and I really want us to try. We have so much in common (I've never really met anyone I click with so much) I really think me and her would be good together and I am sure she does too I can't unless she gives me another chance. I wrote her a letter yesterday. I really want us to work and I don't see why I should walk away. What should I do???!!! Give her time??? I think she also had other issues...she gets angry quite easily..last time I saw her she was trying to look something up on her phone and it wasn't working and she was clenching her fists and gritting her teeth. She also said that her family had called a doctor because they thought she needed help and they also called the police..."in case she kicked off"...was her words. She then said she was embarrassed and covered her face with her hair. Edited August 4, 2014 by Summershirt Link to post Share on other sites
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