joel Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 ok is this just my family or just a cultural thing. my folks are like gung ho about myself and my siblings to later in life if we marry or even date to do it with ppl of our own culture we are chinese but born and raised in cdn. ok is this unreasoable and are ur folks like this too. another thing is we have a male cousin in his early to mid 30's right single and he's dating a WF who happens to be a dentist.b/c she's a dentist its ok in our traditional chinese family but if she wasn't a doctor then all heck would be loose for being a wf.they don;t like the idea of dating white folks dating us, not sure about the jps, koreans or other asians. what do u guys think . b/c shes a doctor-well status, well educated, smart and yes money is all good with our folks and his folks. is this a chinese thing or what is it. the male couson has previoully dated WF but it was looked down upon. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted February 25, 2005 Share Posted February 25, 2005 families can be funny -- you know they love you, but they're not going to give up their prejudices. when I told my one aunt that my husband was raised in Alabama, she asked if he was black! Which surprised me, because my parents (we're Mexican) were incredibly color-blind and raised us to be the same. I think people somehow have it in their heads that money will help a person transcend any flaw -- real or imagined -- and will flip-flop their idealistic attitudes towards someone they previously disliked. Go figure ... as time goes by, though, a person's character becomes the deciding factor in how a family sees him or her. If your cousin's girlfriend shares the same values as your family, then your family might decide that she really IS okay, and her race is less of an issue than before. Link to post Share on other sites
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