Help

[dale1966]

Hello

 

I am married to a wonderful wife, I need help with something or two actually. Before I met here I met her in 1997 and married in 1998. In the past before I met her I have had experience with other guys. In the last year it is all I can think about. I fantize about them and look at gay porno. I chat with local gay guys but nothing has happened. What should I do? Am I gay or bi sexual or just curious. This is not on occasions its all the time i do this. Me and have great relationship but the feelings I am having is tearing me apart. I think she kinda know but has said nothing just hinted. What should I do?

 

2nd I have a fetish when wife is away I dress up in her cloths, even to the point wearing under garments out in public. I use to fantize weaing them now I wear the cloths on regular basis. Is this normal or should I get help with these issue?

 

Thanks

 

Jeff

[Ladyjane14]

Have you checked out the Gender and Sexual Identity section? You might find some helpful threads there. Try posting your questions there as well.

 

I think it probably would help you to get some individual counseling on this. It's too big of a burden to carry alone.

 

A counselor could provide you with not only an understanding ear, but also detailed advice on how to talk to your wife about this. Eventually, you will need to do that. Sexual preference is too large of a detail to keep yourself when you are married.