Do I have any chance? I'm speechless and feel sick, tired but cant give up....

[truthalwayshurts]

Hi everyone;

 

Briefly i was with my exgf for 8 years and living together. Im now 29 soon and she is 25 years old.

 

In this 8 years she has dumped me for more then 10 times with reasons like i love you but not in love with you, i wsnt to be just myself, i see you like friend, brother etc...

 

But after every break up she came back. Also each break up lasted longer then previous one. Last break up were 4 months before we got back again and this was the longest and its happened 2 years ago.

 

Now in 8 years being together she was not working and i was paying rent, all the bills, holidays, her food, her clothes everything basically. And we could always have at least 2 holidays abroad etc. So we didnt have any boring life despite her not working.

 

From beginning her family had problems with me but one minute i know they hate me and next they loved me. I believe this caused by her going back and forth so much and bad mouthing me but not sure.

 

Since last year before brake up now we got her job and my work hours increased to earn more money to have better future and we had credit cards on both of our names that we were paying off without any problem. I was paying her credit cards etc also when she was not working as we were spending it all together.

 

Her parents started to panic when they found out she had credit card as they see her as not responsible etc... but i reassured them that we were paying all comfortable and theres nothing to worry about and they were fine towards my face with it all.

 

Out of blue end of June i was going to pock exgf up from her mums as she used to go there after her work. She was asking me what time i get her etc.. then half hour before i go to pick her up she dropped the bombshell by text saying she wants to get her stuff and finished as she dont feel nothing anymore as usual crap. She didnt even wanted to face me when she collected her stuff so i had to wait with her mum in her car while she pack her stuff.

 

After 3 4 days i found out her pictures with a guy from her work and also guys pictures in her mums house kitchen. I was gobsmacked. Im male and after 8 years even now if i find a girl i would be very embarassed to take her to my parents house to say she is my new gf!

 

I went outside her work place to ask her is this what i deserved after all and she denied lol. Then they reported me to police for harrasment and i spent 9 hours in police station and police even dropped all charges.

 

I was in no contact but realised she liked one of my pictures on facebook by accident and disliked (she not on my friend list) then i closed my facebook down to very private so she dont see nothing.

 

She blocked my whatsapp she had pic of her with that guy on it. I never bothered and suddenly a few days ago i saw she unblocked me on whatsapp and change her picture to herself but i never write anything to her.

 

I know her mum and dad fed up with it all and i know they going mad now since she gone she cant afford to pay her credit cards etc so they all blaming me but i never told her to go or anything and i was happily paying everything off.

 

I thought she was shy to talk embaresses a few days after i written her and we spoke i never mentioned guy or anything i just saod i realised my mistakes etc..

 

Anyway cut long story short i received these msssages of her as she wanted to meet me one minute then next she didnt know to meet up or not then she decided to send me these mesages;

 

Saying she is too tired and dont want to be with anyone and she is not happy with her life and seeing councellor.

 

She feel bad on her parents to embaress as they are all against me.

 

She keep blaming me that i havent done this i havent done that despite i being man enough to admit all my mistakes and apology but she not even mentioned that guy lol.

 

She keeps accusing or thinking or believing that i was seeing other girls where i have never seen or touched or even intented to do anything to any other girl since the day i have actually met her!

 

She saying that i probably have changed but she dont want it anymore.

 

She admits we have strong connections but she thinks that because we been together so young.

 

She admitted she missed me thats why she unblocked me.

 

She also says in her last sentences that she dont know what can happe in the future but she wants to move on now as she things she is already embarassed enough to everyone etc...

 

So all in all i love this girl to die for that no words can explain! I have tried to re assure her constantly that her family and everything will be fine if she allow me chance etc but these were the answers i got and again she is not blocking me at all dont know why. As if i dont want nothing to do with anyone i wouldnt even care if they exist never mind stalking on them or keeping their contact unblocked etc..

 

So im looking for advice of experts for;

 

Where am i standing in this? Whats my chances getting her back for right reasons to develope a family together? Why you think she is acting like this so mixed signals and would she ever give in to meet me face to face in future?

 

Its been just over 1 month since we broke up but all police problems etc happened within 10 days after and we were in no contact for 20 days or so total before i broke nc.

 

I saw her pictures as soon as she left me with a guy from her work who is very downgrade compare to my looks, popularity in the area, financially this is for sure but dont know what made her choose him maybe he been giving her lots of attention but dont know.

 

Now she keeps denying that she is with anyone despite i saw pictures of him in her mums house! Off course i believe my eyes but why is she denying this fact?

 

She is stalking me bad so if she is with another guy and happy why would she stalk me?

 

Keeps telling me because her family against me and said they disown her if she talk to me again so using this as excuse but at the same time she said she will meet me and changed her mind 3 - 4 times and finally she decided not to meet me why?

 

Her last message was she wants to know that im happy so she can move on??? Why does she bother? I asked about guilt she says no but again she is the one cant move on and i cant figure out why!

 

She is also saying that she wants to move on this time but she dont know what would future years can bring.... Why?

 

Sends kisses on the messages but to me dont make no sense either but i know for sure she wanted to meet me as i said also told me not rush her etc... why?

 

I reckon she knows this guy no good for her in anyway and she wants to cone back but family holding her back at the minute as everything is so fresh?

 

or

 

She is in the middle of triangle of family, me and other guy and cant make decision?

 

Please guys i really cant sleep or eat its been just over 1 month and i have lost 8kg weight!

 

I know she isnt good etc.... but these questions keep killing my brain, draining all my energy.

 

I sent her message today and she read my message but not response or neither block me again ...

 

She doesnt know i suffer lile this whatsoever she thinks im happy as i have never told her in entire 8 years how i feel when she left me. But its killing me!!!

 

Whats the best move i can do to get her back or will she ever be able to disregard her parents for the time being and come back once dust is settled (i dont know how long would this take)? If i dont contact her anymore will she miss me to the point where she will make her way back to me? or Will she get over me as the time goes on?

 

I know no body would know for sure but from experienced people i would like advice please.

 

Thanks in advanced for helps.

 

Regards

[samg313]

Do you have a chance? Sure when the credit card bill comes or when she finds out that the grass is not greener on the other side. You are getting a heavy dose of whiplash every once in awhile in this relationship. You first post is from 4 years ago on here and you have had more since that time. So basically the last 4 years has not really been very good in your relationship. If she is seeking help encourage her to do so but enough is enough. You are not a yo-yo to be toyed with all the time.

[OwMyEyeball]

Why do you feel that you must fight, sacrifice and suffer for this girl?

 

And what exactly is it about her that you love?