M30USA Posted August 3, 2014 Share Posted August 3, 2014 This summer, like many dads, I've been spending some extended quality time with my children. I've gotten the chance to do some things that I ordinarily wouldn't due to the time crunch of having just every other weekend. Lately I've been revisiting with my children certain locations that I have memories of with ex. We've visited our old apartment, played at the playground there, climbed up a popular mountain in town and looked out over the lake from up high. All these things we did with ex-wife. So why am I doing them again? Well, I feel like I'm "reclaiming" my past. By going back to these same places, just with my new family unit (me and children), I'm creating new memories. It helps me to get closure with regard to those "special" memories that can linger on. It helps me to move on. I am not the kind of person to avoid my past and try to distract myself from thinking about it. I believe we need to embrace our past whether it was bad or good. This is my way of doing that. I'm confronting these memories head on by going there and starting over. It has the opposite effect of what you'd think. It brings closure and helps you to see things in a healthy perspective. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted August 4, 2014 Share Posted August 4, 2014 I'm sure your kids would agree on that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 We've visited our old apartment, played at the playground there, climbed up a popular mountain in town and looked out over the lake from up high. All these things we did with ex-wife. I understand the outdoor activities, did the same "old favorites" with my son. But why visit the apartment ? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author M30USA Posted August 5, 2014 Author Share Posted August 5, 2014 I understand the outdoor activities, did the same "old favorites" with my son. But why visit the apartment ? Mr. Lucky I wanted him to see it and I wanted to be the one he last remembers being there with him. Like I said...reclaiming memories. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 Better he do that with his kids than a new "main squeeze"...ugh! Link to post Share on other sites
Author M30USA Posted August 5, 2014 Author Share Posted August 5, 2014 Better he do that with his kids than a new "main squeeze"...ugh! What is a "main squeeze"? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGypsy Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 What is a "main squeeze"? Girlfriend I'm thinking. Or lady friend. However one phrases the term 1 Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 Yes, that's pretty much right. The gist is share those special moments with your kids, but be aware when you are dwelling...and don't ever take a new lady to those places...she won't see the memories you do ....and it's not her fault if she doesn't. Time to move ahead..but with keeping things in perspective. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author M30USA Posted August 5, 2014 Author Share Posted August 5, 2014 Lol, I can't believe I've never heard the term "main squeeze" before! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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