how to deal with peter pan?

[lissab113]

So, I need to vent and any feedback would be appreciated.

My bf and i have been together for 2 1/2 years. He's 25, I'm 24. About a year ago he asked if i would move in with him when my lease is up this year. He is an amazing boyfriend who obviously loves me very much. He talks a lot about when we get married and what our kids will be like. I don't worry about him cheating. He's the best guy ever. Problem is that whenever i bring up us moving in together he changes the subject. He's never moved out of his parents house before and i've been out for 6 years, so this being a couple of months away, i want to plan and glow and be happy about it. First instinct after bad past relationships is to jump to horrible conclusions but i know how much he really does care and want a future. How do i deal with my paranoia, stop nagging him about this, and convince him that its time to grow up? Help!

[Merin]

If your lease is up in a few months then you need to be direct with him..

 

Ask him if it's still his plan for the 2 of you to move in together because you need to make definate plans for where you'll be at.. if he tries to change the subject ask him why he doesn't want to talk about it.. let him know (if you feel this way) that if he isn't ready to do this that you're fine with that (again if you are) but that he needs to let you know..

 

IF you're not okay with him not taking this next step with you.. then yeah.. you need to be direct about that as well, and make plans on your own to either renew your currant lease or find something else on your own.

 

Good Luck

[Cecelius]

Agree with everything said above regarding being straight. Also, perhaps you want to think about why you call him Peter Pan -- if you think he's not mature, perhaps moving in together is not wise.