Family or man you love?

[Cheryl]

Well, that pretty much explains it! My father is making me choose between my family and the man that I love! I'm 27 years old! He thinks because this guy has a past that he still is a bad person. I know he's not. Any advice?

 

Thanks.

[Jamie]

It sounds to me like your dad doesn't really love you-I believe that if someone makes you pick,they don't really love you, anyway. Does your dad have a control problem? But, at the same time, is this guy worth losing your family over? Will your family eventually open the door to you again if you choose this guy? People can change, and you just have to show your dad this guy has changed.

[shelly]

Well, that pretty much explains it! My father is making me choose between my family and the man that I love! I'm 27 years old! He thinks

 

because

this guy has a past that he still is a bad

 

person.

I know he's not. Any advice? Thanks.

 

whoa,this sounds exactly like MY problem! i'm

 

moving out next week with my boyfriend who i've

 

been with for over a year now,and my dad has

 

still never met him because he has never said

 

anything good about him cuz he's heard all

 

these untrue rumors about him. anyway,my dad is

 

never happy because i am always with my

 

boyfriend (except for sunday nights when i

 

visit my dad for a few hours). i am 26 years

 

old so my dad should not make me feel guilty

 

for having a life and being with my boyfriend

 

so much. on holidays i always get the guilt

 

trip about why i have to go to his family's

 

house or not stay with mine long enough. i

 

think you and I both are old enough and should

 

not let our parents run our lives. good luck

 

with you!

 

SHELLY