Fishbulb Posted February 14, 2001 Share Posted February 14, 2001 Haven't seen your name for a few days, so I thought I'd say happy Valentines' Day! You have quite a following here, myself being one of them, you are very wise, my dear...thanks. = Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 That was very sweet of you to think of me. Happy V-Day to you, also! I think you must be confusing me with another Laurynn here, I don't have a following LOL Today has been a sh*tty day for me. Like last V-Day, and the one before, and the one before....... The last time I was in a relationship on V-Day was back in 1993. The last time I received flowers (or anything) on V-Day was back in 1993, also. I hate this day. It just makes me sad that I don't have anyone to love, who loves me back. Over the years, I was either single (recovering from my bad marriage), or I was 'in between' V-Day when in a relationship (that never lasted more than 6-7 months anyway). People who have someone special in their lives, really should be so thankful......Today isn't really about Roses or Candy or being taken out for dinner........it's a day to be thankful to have someone who loves you, and to have someone to love. I only hope that next V-Day I'm not alone, again. Laurynn PS..thanks for thinking of me. Link to post Share on other sites
girl's view Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 hey laurynn, i know how you feel. i've only ever spent one valentine's day with a guy and i'm 24!! all my good experiences are reserved for anytime except christmas and v-day!! i just don't think i'm meant to have a christmas with a guy or a v-day. i was reading emma's post and like i said in that, i think v-day only makes you aware of what you really want in your life but don't have. gotta hate it when all these cards and flowers rub it in, eh!!!!! try not to feel too sad. i, and a lot of others out there know exactly how you're feeling at the moment. seeing all these lovey-dovey couples out there can make you feel like crap. i feel like crap cos i didn't even get a card from a secret admirer! i don't even have a secret admirer!! i agree, people should be thankful if they have someone special in their lives. but by the same token, i also think v-day is very commercial and is a conspiracy dreamed up by the post office, restaurants and florists to make lotsa money. lol! i think when you're in love with someone, every day you should show it. i don't see why one day of the year should be reserved for it. flowers and cards out of the blue are a lovely thing. i'm just waiting to meet that man who i can make feel special, and who will do the same for me Link to post Share on other sites
Fishbulb Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 hey laurynn, i know how you feel. i've only ever spent one valentine's day with a guy and i'm 24!! all my good experiences are reserved for anytime except christmas and v-day!! i just don't think i'm meant to have a christmas with a guy or a v-day. i was reading emma's post and like i said in that, i think v-day only makes you aware of what you really want in your life but don't have. gotta hate it when all these cards and flowers rub it in, eh!!!!! try not to feel too sad. i, and a lot of others out there know exactly how you're feeling at the moment. seeing all these lovey-dovey couples out there can make you feel like crap. i feel like crap cos i didn't even get a card from a secret admirer! i don't even have a secret admirer!! i agree, people should be thankful if they have someone special in their lives. but by the same token, i also think v-day is very commercial and is a conspiracy dreamed up by the post office, restaurants and florists to make lotsa money. lol! i think when you're in love with someone, every day you should show it. i don't see why one day of the year should be reserved for it. flowers and cards out of the blue are a lovely thing. i'm just waiting to meet that man who i can make feel special, and who will do the same for me OK, Happy Valentines' Day to you, too! Myself being 'in between' at the time (actually recovering), I've chosen to give myself a most delicious valentine: a pint of Haagen-Dasz Hazelnut Gelati and a package of Famous chocolate wafers, and am having as much as I want, just as if someone were here pampering me...but really, if we don't love ourselves, who else is going to want to? If we don't see ourselves as beautiful, loveable, worthwhile people, then no one else really has that option, either. You both know what I'm saying is true- that radiance you seek must already exist within you in order for other people to be drawn to your flame...it's wonderful to be in love, I wholeheartedly agree-but don't let a relationship (or lack of one) define your life. It's WAY too short for that. Peace. Fishbulb Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 Yes, we should show those who we love/who love us (if we have someone LOL) how much they mean to us every day...not just on V-Day. Yeah, I think it's sorta sickening the way this day is so commercialized...... yesterday I went to the mall and of course all the Jewelry stores have these big sales on...for engagement rings, jewelry, etc. I saw quite a few couples in there looking at rings. Sorta tugged at my heart. Sorta reminded me of the $5400 engagement ring I got stuck buying 2.5 years ago LOLOLOL..but anyhoo.... Oh well......one of my cats loves me....she made me a designer furball today LOLOL Laurynn Link to post Share on other sites
girl's view Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 i'm still recovering too from a relationship. v-day is only hard for me when i'm recovering from one. reminds me of the person i'm missing. i know i'm loveable, and as a person i'm beautiful. i've never been a girl who has to have a guy in her life all the time, thankfully. i've always spent a lot of time on my own in between relationships. so i think i will take a leaf out of your book and indulge in some double choc-chip ice-cream, corn chips, lollies and sit in front of the t.v. and watch whatever i want without having someone get annoyed at my channel flicking!!! i'm gonna spoil myself!! Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 Well...I really don't define myself by a relationship......and I am happy with myself, am not looking for someone to "complete me".....but let's face it, I'm 33 and want to have children one of these days. (no later than 35 or 36).....since I was 23, I've wanted to be 'settled down' (not tied down LOL), married, happy home....a 'best friend' to share things with. The good times, bad times, hurts, fears, joys, surprises, etc. I'm very independent and surely don't "need" a man to sustain me......physically, emotionally, financially, etc......but I believe we were put on this earth to be with someone, companionship. I have just about everything in life I could ask for, except a good man/relationship. I'm not desperate, and I refuse to 'settle for less'.........but time is tickin' away here........and I really miss having someone to come home to, having someone to eat dinner with,...I long to hear the sounds of little feet running down the hall.......(I'm talking a child here, not a man with little feet LOL). A relationship doesn't/wouldn't define me...but I truly believe, for me, that life is much more fulfilling when you have someone to share it with. L Link to post Share on other sites
Fishbulb Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 Well...I really don't define myself by a relationship......and I am happy with myself, am not looking for someone to "complete me".....but let's face it, I'm 33 and want to have children one of these days. (no later than 35 or 36).....since I was 23, I've wanted to be 'settled down' (not tied down LOL), married, happy home....a 'best friend' to share things with. The good times, bad times, hurts, fears, joys, surprises, etc. I'm very independent and surely don't "need" a man to sustain me......physically, emotionally, financially, etc......but I believe we were put on this earth to be with someone, companionship. I have just about everything in life I could ask for, except a good man/relationship. I'm not desperate, and I refuse to 'settle for less'.........but time is tickin' away here........and I really miss having someone to come home to, having someone to eat dinner with,...I long to hear the sounds of little feet running down the hall.......(I'm talking a child here, not a man with little feet LOL). A relationship doesn't/wouldn't define me...but I truly believe, for me, that life is much more fulfilling when you have someone to share it with. L Laurynn, believe me, I am looking for those exact same things (I'm 39+), and I also want someone to share those things with...I've wanted that all my adult life. I talk a good game, but I'm as lonely this Valentines' Day as anyone on this planet...now I'm all depressed again. Time for some more wine... Link to post Share on other sites
Fishbulb Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 Yes, we should show those who we love/who love us (if we have someone LOL) how much they mean to us every day...not just on V-Day. Yeah, I think it's sorta sickening the way this day is so commercialized...... yesterday I went to the mall and of course all the Jewelry stores have these big sales on...for engagement rings, jewelry, etc. I saw quite a few couples in there looking at rings. Sorta tugged at my heart. Sorta reminded me of the $5400 engagement ring I got stuck buying 2.5 years ago LOLOLOL..but anyhoo.... Oh well......one of my cats loves me....she made me a designer furball today LOLOL Laurynn Well, you're certainly right about that...the card companies have a little to do with it, too. It tugs (rips) at my heart, too. But this day was INVENTED by commercialization, purely as a tool to pump a sagging economy after the 'holidays'. The fact that so much emotional weight rests on this day speaks to the instability of quite a few relationships, and that is truly sad. Love and affection should exist 365 days a year, not just the day Madison Avenue says it should. Peace. Fishbulb Link to post Share on other sites
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