She starts dating, I become sad.

[Z360]

I'll try to be as brief as possible. Keep in mind this was my first real relationship (first girlfriend) that lasted a full year. Also, I'm 23 years old and my ex is still a good friend of mine.

 

So, I met my ex on an online dating site. We talked online for a few weeks, and then decided to share our numbers. A month passes by and I finally ask her on our first date. We were both nervous and didn't talk a lot, but still had a decent time. A few better dates later, I ask her if she wants to start a relationship (she said yes of course). Time goes by and we've hardly ever fought or got seriously mad at each other, and the times we did get mad we made up rather quickly. Yea she might annoy me to no end or do weird things, but at the end of the day it doesn't matter to me. Her parents seem to be controlling and over-protective of her, after all they didn't want her dating me (at first), so I get the fact that she still needs to break out of her shell. And like me, we both have a lot to learn. We enjoyed each other's company every time we did something, and we both respected each other. Both of us bought gifts, did what each other wanted to do, enjoyed many movies, and just blended well. I didn't have feelings for her, or at least I didn't think I did the entire time. Anal sex is the only 'intercourse' we had, so she's still a virgin. We tried having normal intercourse, but never got that far, unfortunately. As our year period came to a close I was feeling less excited about us, because I was having that "I should date other girls" attitude. I was just too picky I guess, not realizing how many players are out there and how true she is. We still hang out as friends, so it's not too bad. But...

 

It was a nice day yesterday, so I wanted to do something with her. But I found out she had date plans with some guy. All I said was "Have fun on your date", but really I was a little hurt. I started feeling sad, angry and jealous. I worked out for awhile (2 hrs) only to have her and this guy running through my mind the whole time. Out of nowhere I started crying and realizing that this guy could take my ex (and current friend) away from me. Again, I've never been truly in love and this was my first real relationship. As I think about it more I don't want another guy taking my place. I've had so many potential dates turn out to be players, so she's really the only one I trust. I still cry from time to time, which sucks. I never thought I'd feel this way towards her.

 

Does it sound like I'm in love, or what?

Edited August 5, 2014 by Z360

[Philosoraptor]

I couldn't tell you if you're in love, but jealous definitely. You've apparently not fully coped with the ending of the relationship and the thought of something you once had "belonging" to someone else brings out jealousy in anyone who hasn't fully let go of the emotional aspects of the past.

 

How were you before she started dating? Any emotional issues dealing with things?

[Z360]

I was totally fine before she started again. We hung out a lot and I actually invited her to my friend's wedding (which she went to). We broke up, but really did the same amount of things, minus the kissing and such. We didn't have sex, but a few FWB things happened occasionally just because we felt comfortable around each other.

[Philosoraptor]

Ok, well the fact that you were just fine emotionally says it's a jealousy problem. Now that she's off limits you want her.

[Z360]

I mean, I started talking to this girl and asked her to go on a date, which hasn't happened yet. But now that she is ready to date again and saw a guy yesterday I don't feel the same about the other girl. I haven't had a lot of experience in the dating field, so I'm not sure about my emotions or jealousy happening. She is a great girl who I get along with, and a few friends and my parent's friends still think she's my girlfriend. Seems like we get along well, but I pick out the negative points in her, so that's why I found interest in trying to get to know someone else. But that's nearly impossible since 90% of the girls I chat with or meet are players or just crazy.