Bumpin in My Trunk Posted August 7, 2014 Share Posted August 7, 2014 I would let sleeping dogs lie. This man is a closeted gay. You can tell by his overly homophobic and strong reaction to your snooping. If you continue this, he might "realize" he's gay and leave you. Do you want that? Link to post Share on other sites
Eivuwan Posted August 7, 2014 Share Posted August 7, 2014 The porn men watch and the types of porn they watch is not something that a woman should inject herself into. That's private, and can be very personal. If he invited you into that, that's one thing. It sounds like he is extremely embarrassed and because this is not something that really affects your relationship, it might be a good idea to just let him have his gay porn and leave it alone. That depends on the couple. Some are very open with these things and if you are able to have sex with your wife, what is so private about some porn? Regardless of whether or not she did the right thing, his reaction was over the top and frightening. I don't believe that couples should try to control each other's usage of porn, but I don't think there is anything private about the contents. I think we have the right to know what type of sexual things our partners like because that directly affects our ability to be sexual in an intimate and trusting manner. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sasha1/2 Posted August 7, 2014 Share Posted August 7, 2014 This H's sexuality is for him to label, no one else's. He and his wife will decide what is and is not okay, sexually, in their marriage. It is private. The rage, however, is concerning. I live with this type of anger, too, from my husband. It doesn't mean someone is on drugs, as one poster said, and it doesn't necessarily mean that the angry person has anything to hide. It does mean they have big problems with communication and expressing themselves appropriately. If this rage recurs, get help for you and your kids. A good marriage counselor can help the two of you talk about sexuality. I'm assuming that the two of you have an active sex life. You should find out if you need to protect yourself from STDs. If your husband strays, for a man or woman, you need to stay healthy. Link to post Share on other sites
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