unrequitedlove11 Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 My hesitation with this guy is that he might not tend to my needs of pleasure or show me the affection I want with no strings attached . At first I only wanted head because I didn't want to give myself away to someone who wasn't my boyfriend but he's not into giving head .. said he only did it twice . He's broken me down over the past 4 months with his continuous efforts . My morals and self respect are conflicting with my hormones which are skyrocketing through the roof . I also know that I won't be open to do certain things at first because it took me a long time to be completely comfortable with my ex . I mean after 3 years , the last two times we had sex was the first time he ever saw me completely naked... I just want to know if I should test the waters with this new guy . I haven't had sex in 7 months and I do have self control but a vibrator could never compare to the real thing . I miss having someone to please sexually . I was an all out freak for my ex .. I don't see this guy or myself getting in another relationship anytime soon so it's like why not ? I love sex , I like his sex drive . I'm on birth control but after trusting my ex and him breaking that I will always use protection from here on out .. I want to be as open sexually with him like I was with my ex minus oral sex but then I feel like I'm setting myself up . Still my temptation grows everyday , should I give in ? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 I strongly suggest you do supplement with a marital aid. It doesn't necessarily have to vibrate, which can be too much. It's better than cultivating bad relationships over the long term just because you need sex and have to warm up to someone to feel good. I would also suggest you might go to a gyn hormone specialist and have your hormone panel done and be sure you don't need some regulating. Also if you happen to be at all bipolar, even a little, the rebound effect can make you intensely sexual and that needs to be regulated if it gets to where it's guiding all your decisions about men and, well, even taking time to do the dishes or go to work. I have been there during a rebound from a long depression and maybe some hormonal changes were also going on because I was nearing 50 at the time. I didn't make any mistakes, but I was a loose cannon there for awhile. Link to post Share on other sites
Author unrequitedlove11 Posted August 8, 2014 Author Share Posted August 8, 2014 I actually have A LOT of self control because I know that I don't need sex, I just want it. I've only had one partner and I didn't lose my virginity until a week before my 18th birthday to my ex; after all the failed attempts of other guys trying to get me. And he didn't ask or press me for it. I'm completely over my multiple attempts of being unable to meet someone with good intentions... I just want to know if I should explore the FWB life for a moment. If that doesn't work out with him then I'll continue to wait it out. I've accepted and adjusted to being alone it just gets lonely from time to time. Keeping myself occupied doing other things only lasts for so long... Both of my best friends are in long term relationships and I feel like it's just not for me... maybe I need to try something different. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Well, in that case, it sounds more like you need some new friends than you need casual sex. Because you're just bored. Link to post Share on other sites
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