Why is it so hard to get a F buddy?!

[coralsmith]

That's probably the problem. If you are well adjusted, fb arrangements are not for you. I think you are looking for a relationship. Otherwise you would have given up on the guy by now and screwed someone else. This 'society this society that' is BS.

 

Well-adjusted people can't want to have casual sex..? Sounds a bit short sighted to me.

 

And I have found someone else - am I now emotionally adjusted again?

[TigerLilly78]

I agree your playing dating games with a Fbuddy prospect also he prob got annoyed after you had a ONS with him them said you don't like ONS that's kinda confusing?

 

Also him saying are you embarrassed wasn't a good thing you want a Fbuddy but dose he? maybe he wants more or he only wanted the ONS plus why couldn't you just introduce him as a friend to your other friends? the fact you didn't would have been insulting to me anyways..

[thekid36]

So as to try to answer your initial question like it is phrased in your thread title. The reason why it is so challenging rests in the fact that many things are different about it. As opposed to an actual relationship I mean. One is perhaps best suited to not attach any sort of expectations when it comes to things. Since it basically is against what the arrangement is maybe meant to be. I think that for many it is a comfortable and fun way to have sex with one specific and trusted person when you are not looking for any kind of commitment. As opposed to just going out with the intention of hooking up with a stranger. Thus, it almost is a kind of arrangement where you almost have to take the fun of it when it happens to come. Not only when it works out with your own schedule. Just all in itself and without anything else along with it. There still needs to be mutual agreement in relation to when and where the next hook-up will be. When one partner starts to experience anything besides the sexual pleasure from it, that is when complications are most likely to occur. Very challenging for both parties to agree all the time and stick to what it is meant to be. Thus, why it is perhaps so hard to keep this kind of buddy.

[preraph]

He's too close to the motherlode. You're going to have to find someone not so connected to any exes. Ask some girlfriends who would be good for that and you can go do the proposition yourself. And once commenced, you don't have to give them any details.