pixel blue Posted August 7, 2014 Share Posted August 7, 2014 Hi everyone, I posted here before about a former relationship and appreciated the replies. So, I'll get to it. My ex and I broke up about 6 months ago. It was her decision, but I didn't fight it. We've been in occasional contact since, with periods of no contact as necessary. Lately I've gotten to the point where I no longer feel compelled to communicate with her. She's been seeing someone else, and I've long since accepted that we'll likely never see each other again. In recent weeks she's been initiating contact with me, often when she's stressed, but sometimes just to chat, or ask questions about something. She's never been the type to take advantage of people - more often then not I saw people take advantage of her, so I don't necessarily think she's just using me as an emotional crutch. I get the impression that she's almost looking for reasons to stay in touch. At one point she said she 'didn't want to pretend I don't exist'. Thanks for reading! Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted August 7, 2014 Share Posted August 7, 2014 Boy, can I relate! Word for word, actually. How do you feel about it? Is she flirty with you? If you lost the desire to communicate with her then why do you still communicate with her?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pixel blue Posted August 8, 2014 Author Share Posted August 8, 2014 I suppose I should clarify, I have no problem remaining friends, I just don't have that hope of reconciling or trying to stay in touch to win her back. It's hard to say whether or not she's flirty since we only communicate via text. She seems to enjoy talking to me, frequently laughing at my jokes, but I don't really consider that flirting. Link to post Share on other sites
rewl Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 I suppose I should clarify, I have no problem remaining friends, I just don't have that hope of reconciling or trying to stay in touch to win her back. It's hard to say whether or not she's flirty since we only communicate via text. She seems to enjoy talking to me, frequently laughing at my jokes, but I don't really consider that flirting. Tell her not to speak to you again unless she wants to be your booty call. I'm kidding (well...half-kidding!) don't text her again. Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Hmmm...so what's the problem then? I tried to do the friend thing too but eventually one or the other ends up getting flirty or doing the sexting stuff OR one ends up wanting to know what they are to the other person. Maybe it'll work if you are over her romantically and she, you. Were you looking for any kind of advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pixel blue Posted August 8, 2014 Author Share Posted August 8, 2014 I guess I'm just trying to figure out why she's reaching out to me when stressed, and not her boyfriend(I'm assuming they're still together, not sure). Basically I'm confused, and wondering if anyone else had a similar experience or some insight I to what her motivation is. Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Yes, I have had the same the same experience as you. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. She misses your friendship but if it bothers that she's talking to you while with someone else then you know what to do. She doesn't want you back she just misses your friendship. After all, she got really comfortable with you. She may feel like you understand her better than her current bf...who knows...who cares? It doesn't sound at all like there's reason to believe she wants you back. Link to post Share on other sites
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