michellew Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 After a break from OLD, I've decided to give Tinder a try. Only problem is, there's no way of knowing how tall a man is unless he offers up that information on his profile! Being a tall woman who likes to wear heels, I prefer tall men that I I don't tower over and most men prefer a shorter woman as well. Before meeting someone from Tinder, how do you politely ask how tall they are without sounding rude or picky? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 After talking some, just ask them. Make it your problem. So I'm 5'11". How tall are you? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Oh my gosh! I'm having the same issue on Tinder! I'm average height but I prefer tall men, at least 6'4". I haven't asked any guy yet but have been disappointed with their height IRL so far. Sorry fellas! I like tall. Always have. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 I doubt there's a non-shallow way to ask - it's kinda like a guy asking a girl's measurements or boob size or weight before he meets her. Comes across as douchey all around. Is there a reason you can't just meet them and see how things go? 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Candy_Pants Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 (edited) Yup. The height question is just more "socially acceptable". That being said, if you were on Tinder and liked big breasted women but all the photos were only headshots...you'd be in the same boat . Edited August 8, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Just come right out and ask him his height. Tell him that you don't date shorter guys. I just hope the ladies don't get upset if guys start asking your weight. I have my height and weight on my profile and you can see my breast size in pictures so... Link to post Share on other sites
Dork Vader Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Umm read their profiles? Most ask how tall you are.. I think all do honestly. Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Just ask OP. I'd have no problem telling you and would prefer you knew I was 5'11" and not 6'4" if that's what you were expecting. I do "nitpick" women, so no big deal. Some of the criteria I have would probably piss a lot of women off if I actually told them instead of giving them the run-around reason. And I am not saying you're nitpicking, assuming you're taller than me. It'd be nitpicking if you were shorter than me even in heels, but whatever. People should go for what they want and not feel guilt-ed into accepting less. If you have trouble getting what you want, that's when you should start "compromising". Till than, do your best and go for yours. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 I don't see what the issue is with just saying something along the lines of "I'm 5'6" and usually wear 3" heels, so I prefer to date a guy taller than 5'10" (or whatever). Would you mind sharing your height before we go any further?" Honestly, the only guys who will be offended are the ones shorter than your required height, and that's no loss to you. The 6' guy is going to tell you his height and move forward. But be prepared for lies. I've encountered many shorter guys who lie about their height and hope you will overlook it when you meet them in person. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 After a break from OLD, I've decided to give Tinder a try. Only problem is, there's no way of knowing how tall a man is unless he offers up that information on his profile! Being a tall woman who likes to wear heels, I prefer tall men that I I don't tower over and most men prefer a shorter woman as well. Before meeting someone from Tinder, how do you politely ask how tall they are without sounding rude or picky? Put your height. If you're 6'2" in heels, no guy shorter than that height will want to contact you. Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 What a shock Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 I think it's hilarious that women wear heels making them taller, then expect men to be taller than they are in those heels. I am 5'10 and I have dated women from 5'0 all the way up to 6'. None have ever had a problem with my height, nor have I ever had a problem with theirs, even though the 5'11 ex I was with liked wearing heels. I could understand a 6' tall girl not wanted to date a guy who was 5', but to wear heels to make yourself seem taller, then disregard guys who don't measure up to your fake height? That's ridiculous to me. I think to solve this problem, guys should start wearing heels themselves. That way, the next time a 5'6 girl with her 3" heels asks about our height, we can say that we are 5'8 with 4 inch heels, so it works out. If you've never had a problem with your height, then why should it matter if a woman you don't even know has a preference? I wear at least a 3" heel around six days a week. (Sundays I rest, lol.). I don't want to tower over my boyfriend. That's my preference. I think I'm entitled to choose what type of men I want to date physically, aren't I? Since I have to look at them and spend time with them and possibly commit to them for the rest of my life? It's no different than men who don't want to date an obese or unattractive girl. That is their preference and their choice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Candy_Pants Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 I think to solve this problem, guys should start wearing heels themselves. That way, the next time a 5'6 girl with her 3" heels asks about our height, we can say that we are 5'8 with 4 inch heels, so it works out. I agree. And fishnets. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 That's such a double standard. OLD websites should require women to list their weight. Weight alone would not provide most men with any barometer. I've pointed out to you before that many of the women you think are really hot (based on their pictures that you've linked in various threads) are very likely obese on a standard BMI chart and weigh a lot more than you might suspect. People carry weight differently also. A full body pic should be sufficient to know whether or not you are attracted. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Glinda.Good Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 I think it's hilarious that women wear heels making them taller, then expect men to be taller than they are in those heels. Really? What's hilarious about that? And I don't think the women are "expecting" this out of men. They like it, they want it, it's their preference. You have some of your own, don't you? Are they hilarious? to wear heels to make yourself seem taller, then disregard guys who don't measure up to your fake height? That's ridiculous to me. I think to solve this problem, guys should start wearing heels themselves. That way, the next time a 5'6 girl with her 3" heels asks about our height, we can say that we are 5'8 with 4 inch heels, so it works out. That's a great idea, you really should. But the population of women who are interested in dating guys who wear heels may be limited. Not because of fake height, either. Seriously, why are you so offended by women's preferences? What is so ridiculous and hilarious about a woman wanting to date a guy who is taller than she is when she wears heels? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Calling yourself "taller" with the aid of heels is synonymous with you saying you have long hair with the aid of wigs 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 It's no different than men who don't want to date an obese or unattractive girl. That is their preference and their choice. Or girls that have a kid/s. It is admirable they take care of them, but I am not getting mixed up in it. Or flappy tits. I don't mind small breast, I actually like em, but flappy tits, not so much. Areolas should be small and tight as well. Feet. I am not kinky or anything, I just don't like women that have ****ed up looking feet probably from wearing shoes they shouldn't be wearing for long periods of time. Hands. Man-hand on a woman .....WTF. You shave/wax everything right? No? Well, ok. Upper lip hair. No, putting make-up over it won't make it so I don't notice. I mean, like how hard can this be?? Another thing, hair around the nipple!!! Ohh, there's a lot more too. But I just keep it to myself and say something generic to the girl. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Calling yourself "taller" with the aid of heels is synonymous with you saying you have long hair with the aid of wigs I don't think any woman claims their height plus heels as their actual height. But, the reality is if a woman wears heels out on a regular basis, her height will be higher than it is when she is at home and in bare feet. And presumably, she will be with her man during these ventures out into the public. So if she wants a guy who is at that height or taller, what's it to you? As someone else mentioned above, do you have NO physical preferences for the women who you'll date? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author michellew Posted August 8, 2014 Author Share Posted August 8, 2014 Me wanting to know a man's height is no different than someone going onto other dating websites and purposely not clicking on boxes related to physical appearance (such as body type) when doing a search. That doesn't make me shallow, just honest. You're lying to yourself if you don't agree that physical appearance is what first attracts you to someone. Geez, it's TINDER! A dating website truly based on initial looks alone! Don't think someone's cute? You simply swipe to the left and move on. I never said I was looking for a super tall man, just someone taller than me when I wear heels (5'11"). Yes, I said IN HEELS! Although I'm 5'8", I'm not giving up a closet full of heels (and the attire to go with them) to date someone as tall or shorter than me if it's just not my preference. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TXGuy Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 (edited) I don't have a problem with women having a double standard with respect to height. There are plenty of double standards all the way around. But, the same women here will will often howl about double standards men traditionally have. One example would be that some men look down on women who sleep with them on the first date. It is a double standard, just like women who prefer men taller than them (and not just taller than them, but taller than them in heels). Or the guy that smokes and insists that his girlfriend doesn't. I don't have a problem with any of the double standards out there. They are all equally valid. To answer your question, you can just ask his height. If he meets your requirements, he wont care. So there is no downside to asking. If he doesn't meet your requirements, you don't really care about the guy anyway, so you you shouldn't care what he thinks. Edited August 8, 2014 by TXGuy Link to post Share on other sites
sydneysider1978 Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 Hey op, this is tinder, the whole idea of it is shallow! How about you flip the question on its head? Ask the guy you are chatting to how he feels about tall girls in sexy heels? If he's tall he'll brag about his height. If he's average height and secure he'll let you know if he thinks it's a turn on. If he's short and/or turned off by the idea, you'll probably get the picture too. Keep it flirty! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 See also: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/343363-consolidated-discussion-man-s-woman-s-height-search-relationships As this thread went way off-topic, some postings were moved and some deleted. Thread closed. Link to post Share on other sites
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