Salvage the friendship or forget it?

[monkey00]

there's this dude who've i met a year ago at my college and have hung out with him during last summer. We do have a lot in common actually.

 

The last time i talked to the guy was about 2 months ago, the last time we hung out was 3 or 4 months ago. since then we just stopped calling all together.

 

I wasn't too good of a friend with him a few times in the past and neither was he. But we break even with those times.

 

I love to play billiards often, he doesnt cause he's not good at it. He'll be picky about watching certain movies. but i'm not. He's the bar scene guy with his friends weekly, im underaged so i cant be in the bar scene (20). and i'm the pool guy weekly with my friends. During the summer, we had a common interest in playing soccer with groups of people since after all it was for people that sucked such as us. and since winter came we slowly stopped playing and stopped contact.

 

I find at my age it isn't easy to make new friends, so should i even bother calling him up and salvage the friendship? If the friendship doesnt matter to him, then my attempts would be futile.

[greeneyedgirl23]

I think that if you guys have a good time hanigng out then you should give him a call. He is probably, like you said, hanging out at the bars. So why dont you invite he and some of his friends to a party where you can meet new people? You dont have to go to the bars to meet people! Give it a try!

[monkey00]

greeneyedgirl thakns for your response.

 

Today was a soccer game, me and him was notified cause we're in a mailing list. So i showed up for it, later on he showed up.

 

said hi how's everythign going, vice versa. We were still cool and stuff during the game. after the game ended, we all parted ways.

 

After today i realized i his friendship was unimportant. There are times where people change, but he hasnt. Still closed off as usual with people and introvert, sometimes uptight.

 

One of the guys suggested to go for drinks i agreed, then he went " you're old enough to drink?" i say , "close enough my bday is this summer"

 

If he's uptight to go to a bar to drink w/me just cause im underaged by 1 year, then he has issues he should deal with.

 

this guy is 25 and still has issues to deal with, i just wont take part in it.

 

I guess i used to be a little like him, there we had common ground. Since i've changed over the year, we don't have common ground anymore. We are in the same field of study, but doesnt make up for much.

 

It's interesting how people often make friends with others who share a similar personality/common ground. I guess this was one of the times where friendship doesnt hold. we're just acquantances now.

[greeneyedgirl23]

well, just remember that some people come in and out of our lives, and maybe you are better off without him as a closer friend. You seem pretty cool, and should have no problem making friends!!