Why is my ex-bf text messaging her?!!!

[TrueSmiles12]

my ex-bf's prime means of communication is text messaging. we've been broken up for about a month now and i'm very much still struggling, while he's having the time of his life - getting wasted every night without a care in the world.

 

last saturday night, he texted me, "ur honestly f*ng insane"

 

last night, i guess he texted this girl... wtf?! i guess i'm so upset because i was the only one he had that stupid kind of communication with, when he wanted to text something, it would be for me. and now, it's someone else???

 

please please please don't just simply say, "move on," because it's just not the most practical thing to say right now. i need a lot of help with this situation and i'd really like to get more in depth about it with someone on these posts, so please help me and inquire about this, I NEED HELP!

[limejoose]

Are you sure hes having the time of his life getting wasted every night? I just broke up with my girl about a month ago, i was going out everynight gettin wasted too but it wasnt without a care in the world. Maybe he misses you. Maybe that text was ment for you. Ive been there drownning myself in a bottle and believe me its hasnt been the time of my life. In the end I'll just be hung over still feeling sad and have a damn bar tab to pay off. Hope this helps.

[whichwayisup]

Read no foolin's thread here... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/

 

That will help you cope abit. A month emotionally is not a long time so I can understand you're really hurting.

 

You can't control what he does/doesn't do. I know it is not what you want to hear. Sounds like he is playing a game with you or just really being an a**h***!

 

My suggestion is block him on your IM right now. The less you hear from him the better - atleast till you are in a better frame of mind.

 

How long were you with him?

 

Keep posting your thoughts and take it day by day.

[TrueSmiles12]

Thanks all! I appreciate your responses...

 

but what's bad is that i want to know, i want to know if he's hooking up with someone else, if it's with this girl he's now texting, etc... i dont know, knowing is better than not knowing for me. the more i know, the more i can get over in time?? i just don't want to be left in the dark i guess.

 

we were together for a year, on and off. and he's NEVER EVER been this mean to me, that insane comment that he made was the meanest thing he's ever said to me. why is he acting like this??

 

limejoose - i really appreciate your response.. maybe you could really help me begin to understand why he's all of a sudden acting this way -- that he doesn't care at all, that he's not even willing to have me in his life, anything... he says he "needs time to figure things out," but whats to figure out when he broke up with me? he left me out to dry and it's killing me, because i can't even be in his life and it's killing me even more thinking that he really just does not care and is hooking up with someone or already with someone. i can't help but be paranoid, because i don't know what he's thinking!

 

thanks and please keep the aid coming

[Oriental]

hi trust me ive been through all this. it hurts very very much but you will be ok. my experience is knowing more means hurting more. my ex, was out getting wasted and sleeping with different women, he told me he's not having a great time being on his own again and he did miss me and think about me a lot, but he chose to be alone and this is what he wants now. we used to be in touch and each time i found out that he's sleeping with someone (usually a different one each time as he told me) i got soooooooooooo hurt. in the end we both knew being in touch is not working and we both need to get on with our lives so we cut off contact completely. ok what im trying to say is if you want to know what's happening then go and ask him, truth may hurt but at least help you see things clearly.