dirty_girl Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 so...my b/f is from cancun...he is leaving for two months to go hone and work for spring break...i trust him and all that but i think i may go crazy because of all the stuff that will go through my head...i know he is comin back and i know he'll call when he gets back but it really sux so what do i do...he is the greatest guy in the world and i really like him and i think he feels the same help Link to post Share on other sites
girl's view Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 re-read the important bits in your post: i trust him and all that it is a really good thing that you trust your boyfriend. trust is vital in a relationship. when the person you are with knows that you trust them, it is highly unlikely that there is anything to worry about. after all, you do trust him for a reason. but i think i may go crazy because of all the stuff that will go through my head... whatever goes through your head will be of your own doing. don't let your imagination run wild. you WILL drive yourself insane. there is absolutely no use reading into things and worrying about things that probably will not happen anyway. think about how much you trust him instead. be positive!!! i know he is comin back and i know he'll call when he gets back but it really sux so what do i do... what do you do? have faith in this guy. continue to live your life without him temporarily. don't get hung up on irrational thoughts. he is not your life-line. you can easily continue your life for the 2 months he is away. you have to be mature about this. people go on business trips all the time. people from other countries fall for people all the time and go back home temporarily and come back. this is to be expected when their home is not in the same country as you. he is the greatest guy in the world and i really like him and i think he feels the same ok. you "think" he feels the same. why don't you find out for sure if he feels the same? you need to communicate with him. perhaps a lot of your insecurities about him going home for 2 months stem from the fact that you "think" he feels the same. when you know for sure how he feels, you will be able to say "yay" or "nay" to waiting for him. by the way, 2 months will fly....trust me. Link to post Share on other sites
dirty_girl Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 so he got drunk the other night and told me for the first time that he loved me...he said it and is was like you do? he said yes lisa i love you... i know from the past that he is a firm believer in the phrase the truth comes out when u are drunk. once we were out got in a fight and i told him everything i felt for him he was entralled... the next day i was like i don't remember a thing he was like oh that is nice you don't remember what u said...i responded yes i do...he was kinda offended...then he was like well the truth comes out when you are drunk. do you think he loves me? because when we are together we are great and it olny gets better as time goes on...and do you think he is confused about leaving me. in the past he has told me he didn't want to get too involved because he is leaving...but at the same time we are still togehter...what do u think he is thinking? Link to post Share on other sites
girl's view Posted February 15, 2001 Share Posted February 15, 2001 i would love to be able to tell you what he is thinking, but unfortunately, only he knows what he is thinking. now, the whole issue of the truth coming out when you are drunk: sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't. for a lot of people out there, drinking alcohol gives them "dutch courage". some people view alcohol as a "truth serum", others dribble anything that comes out. alcohol affects people differently, although generally after a few drinks... one feels happy, more relaxed and have less concentration. a few more...less inhibitions, more confidence. alcohol is a funny thing - some people open up when under the influence, others do or say things they regret later. like i said, it affects different people differently. for example, i've known the most charming people to get drunk and become aggressive and say things they don't mean. for me, alcohol makes me very affectionate towards my friends and family, and i get all mushy and say the things i'm feeling that i wouldn't feel comfortable saying when i'm sober (the amount of times i've rung up my mother and told her i love her, and told my friends how i love them). i'm not saying one way or the other if your boyfriend meant what he said, or if he didn't. but i would suggest asking him when you are both sober. you need to ask him, and have him answer you honestly, if he loves you. my guess is that he does. ask him if he still feels the same way about becoming involved with someone. that is, does he still not want to get involved because he is leaving? has meeting you and the feelings he's developed for you changed his mind about becoming involved? i think for your own peace of mind, you need to clarify where you stand in his life. you know how you feel about him, but you need to know if he feels the same way. i understand - it's no fun when you don't know where a relationship is headed. but definitely talk to him so you can clarify once and for all where you stand. i hope you get the answer from him that you're looking for. but please bear in mind, that sometimes we can really love a person, but the circumstances can prevent them from being together. good luck to you Link to post Share on other sites
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