Girlfriend broke up with me for another guy, calls month later acting unsure of him ?

[No Limit]

Spent the last 20 minutes looking for a very entertaining thread in another forum where a guy had been contacted by his cheating ex GF after a couple of months. He asked the community and they all told him to stay NC; he did, and the GF went nuts over it.

 

Depending on how crazy your ex is, this is something you might prepare yourself for. Most of the time you'll just receive unnecessary breadcrumbs which you also should ignore and never reply to.

[Moeconfused]

What are experiences with going No contact if their Ex with someone new? and if it made your ex try contacting you again?

 

Regardless if you wanted them back or not

 

If so how long did it take?

[Peacock_Tail]

5 months since she told me she wanted to work things out with her ex and haven't heard from her since then. At first it was really hard as I really loved her and wanted to be with her but with time it gets easier. I have her blocked in all ways possible so I don't get any breadcrumbs to **** my mind. But if she wanted she could reach me I guess.

 

Now, as I'm on my mid twenties I realized it was for the best. There are plenty of interesting people out there and I don't have to give anybody an explanation of what I did or with whom I was with. Also I want to keep travelling and volunteering abroad so it's much better to go without an annoying pet by my side. And if one day I settle with someone (who knows what the future holds) I will be able to trust them.

 

Block her and move on. She is bad news for you. Good luck

[Moeconfused]

I blocked her on every platform possible and she did the same, she even told me the last time I talked to her that she wants to act like I never existed and go into her new relationship like I nvr existed, she's a superficial bitch who was attracted to the new guys money and equal desperation, its her loss in 6 months she could have stayed with me after I graduate med school but i know its a good thing it happened now before I married her. Blows my mind how us not being together has no effect on her but hurts me this much. I know time will heal all things.

[NoLeafClover]

Completely off topic, but I'm restoring a 1998 SLK 230 with only 27K miles on it. Love that car because of the hardtop convertible, and it will never leave me.

of topic I have an S600 w140 that I also can never let go either I know that feeling. Surprisingly none of my Exs liked the car cuz "its too box or too big"..

 

 

 

 

 

On topic.

NC has given me so much power I feel like I ...Have beaten all the odds..the woman I got on here originally for...(you guys are gonna hate me or this )..

 

 

Well I kinda been screwing her around after 1 1/2 yrs NC. No feelings, no type of jealousy, bitterness, or anger. Totally nothing. I Just do my thing, hangout, laugh when we feel like it and all the jazz at random.. If I need something I call and she is there but she knows that I don't care about her no matter how horrible it sounds.

She BU with me , torn me apart as my mom was sick doing chemo and bone marrow transplant ...she knows I will never go back..Ever ever? Yess ever ever.

 

 

I never thought in million yrs I be at this point in dec 12.

 

 

My last BU was 2mnths ago. I was in love with her but when shi t hit the fan and she walked out..i simply just sent her ssstuff back. Old me would have been banging at her door..No more of that.

 

 

Give it time and you will come of better and stronger than before

Edited August 16, 2014 by NoLeafClover

[Chi townD]

she's a superficial bitch who was attracted to the new guys money and equal desperation

 

 

 

 

Well, there you go! She showed you her true colors! She wanted to be with you because she saw a future of financial security and stability. But, she got greedy and wanted it now. Since you were smart and wanted to wait, she threw you to the curb and decided to get with the person she was cheating on you with. A guy who's FAMILY has money (not him).

 

 

Time to find a girl that wants to be with you and not one that needs to be with you. Big difference. You want a girl that would have no problem saying to you " Look, I don't NEED to be with you. I would be fine without you. But, I'm here because I want to be with you because I love you and you're my best friend and my partner." See the difference?

[Natsu21]

Well, there you go! She showed you her true colors! She wanted to be with you because she saw a future of financial security and stability. But, she got greedy and wanted it now. Since you were smart and wanted to wait, she threw you to the curb and decided to get with the person she was cheating on you with. A guy who's FAMILY has money (not him).

 

 

Time to find a girl that wants to be with you and not one that needs to be with you. Big difference. You want a girl that would have no problem saying to you " Look, I don't NEED to be with you. I would be fine without you. But, I'm here because I want to be with you because I love you and you're my best friend and my partner." See the difference?

 

Take it from me. Find a girl that doesn't give a CRAP about your money, but rather, that you work hard and keep strong.

 

Strength and diligence is never reflected in your bank account. Find a woman who will be there for you in case it all goes belly up.

 

As long as your ex is like this, she's nothing but a glorified prostitute.

[Moeconfused]

Well, there you go! She showed you her true colors! She wanted to be with you because she saw a future of financial security and stability. But, she got greedy and wanted it now. Since you were smart and wanted to wait, she threw you to the curb and decided to get with the person she was cheating on you with. A guy who's FAMILY has money (not him).

 

 

Time to find a girl that wants to be with you and not one that needs to be with you. Big difference. You want a girl that would have no problem saying to you " Look, I don't NEED to be with you. I would be fine without you. But, I'm here because I want to be with you because I love you and you're my best friend and my partner." See the difference?

 

 

Thx this is a great piece of advice, I've come to realize she was just and stringing me along these past couple years and when something new and shiny that was better equipped to fulfill her superficial needs she jumped at the opportunity and discarded me like trash. Lesson learned and wont be forgotten.

[Moeconfused]

Today was a bad day , nightmares about ex who left me. Still no contact thankfully

[Polak]

You'll be fine. Just keep up the regime of NC and it'll all get easier. You already know how superficial she was being so just remind yourself of that every time she pops into your head and you start missing her. You don't need her! Like Chi Town said, a girl who wants to be with you instead of needing to be you is what you want. It's a world of difference.

[Moeconfused]

thx for all the advice im having a really hard time proccessing what just happened and my life being turned upside downshe had absolutely no emotion in discarding me like trash.

[johnson_j]

It sucks man, being with someone that you love and they discard you lke you were nothing. You know something, I'm a little older than you and I just went through a similar situation (and I have before too), and while it's not fun, it will get better.

 

 

Let me tell you - of EVERY girl I've dated who has done the same (just walked away like it didn't matter), EVERY one of them came back AFTER I was healed and didn't want them back. EVERY single ONE. And guess what? You're going to be a Doctor (MD), making good coin, with solid job prospects and YOU will have your pick of the women. Trust me on this. You don't need to let some girl who can't handle her emotions and trust in love enough to get through a weak spell take you away from your goals and dreams. OWN YOUR life. Make the most of it, and she will be the one who missed out.

[Moeconfused]

I still do get a rush of thinking that karma will come back to get her and that she will regret discarding me like trash, truth is she might not and her new relationship could work out permanently, thats something i am slowly accepting, girls like her are cowardly and selfish and i need to appreciate the circumstances which removed a person like that out of my life.