Author Misterious Posted August 12, 2014 Author Share Posted August 12, 2014 Her reasons to think someone would cheat her are: -She is chubby( not even a problem for me i love her and i also enjoy alot) and that's make her insecure and saying bad things about other womans like "look that btch trying to look cool". -Her ex cheated her so she think "every man is like that". Link to post Share on other sites
Author Misterious Posted August 12, 2014 Author Share Posted August 12, 2014 Yeah man, real nice guy. It's not about your preferences, limited contact is for specific situations such as the involvement of children, not because you still "want to talk here and there". Dude i know her , if she start talking and i just "ignore" i will ignite the TNT and she will rage and turn so angry like the devil. One thing that she always liked at me is i give her attention, but now i'm the one giving bread crumbs , i don't start talking she does, i just talk like you talk with any friend. She will always want more than this so she will work for it. Really already ignored her text for like an hour and she turned SO MAD. So i prefer just don't showing any interess in keepeing the conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Misterious Posted August 12, 2014 Author Share Posted August 12, 2014 I read few books like EX² system, magic of making up and text your ex back. One advice that i found is don't contact your ex but if she contact you all good just talk calm and don't bring anything about the relationship, show her you are happy and busy. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted August 12, 2014 Share Posted August 12, 2014 I mean, it's clear you aren't ready to take any advice. You are going about this all wrong, but I guess some people have to be dragged through the mud for a while before they actually wise up. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Misterious Posted August 12, 2014 Author Share Posted August 12, 2014 I mean, it's clear you aren't ready to take any advice. You are going about this all wrong, but I guess some people have to be dragged through the mud for a while before they actually wise up. Best of luck. I'm reading all advices, but i only see what i can use and what i don't. I can't 100% follow a magic plan, because it doesn't existe i'm looking what you guys say and trying to figure out how i can adapt this to my situation. There alot of people who don't answer anything to ex and still without them, there people who answer and are in same situation, there people who don't answer and got them back and there people who answer and get them back. I'm here for getting advices and trying to figure out if worth trying in my case. I think there isn't another guy who gf turned mad,angry like a crazy dog because she fantasies she will be cheated and then get mad at you with diabolic fidelity test's that went 100% wrong and made she hurt herself. Every case is unique, every girl have their own minds, somethings can be done in general but not 100%. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 Like I said, you aren't there. You are trying to manipulate someone into loving you and trying to find a magic formula. There isn't one because it's all up to her. I just think you have to do all of your "get your ex back" tricks before you are ready to really take constructive advice. Honestly, your case really isn't that unique and once you realize that, then maybe you'll be ready to proceed. Link to post Share on other sites
LifeGoesOnMan Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 there really isn't anything you can do at this point besides walking away. you will realize this, just as I did, sooner or later. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Misterious Posted August 14, 2014 Author Share Posted August 14, 2014 Bumping topic and i have a new thing now. Before i date her i was just a guy who wanted to be like "Zyzz" that gym guy who had alot of btchs and getting rich too! And i used to study more. I delete my facebook, whatsapp, and all other social medias and really i don't feel bad about this. My ex cant stalk me now, if she wanna talk she only can do this by calling me. She called me an hour ago but my phone was without signal so i don't saw it. Then i just caller her but now she don't got it, and well i don't care. I'm becoming the old Misterious who used to love gym and was ambitious about getting rich someday( I know i'm young 20 yo my family isn't rich but i will change i will finish my graduation and turn an metallurgical engineer. I'm now going to build my future and getting whatever i want. If my ex gf want me she will need to show me why i should back with her and prove she don't gonna be so jealous and angry. Peace Link to post Share on other sites
ThorntonMelon Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 Don't call her back next time. Otherwise, thumbs up man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Misterious Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 Ok my ex is becoming the type of girl that i used to "hate". Social media's freak, she keep online on fb for 18 hours/day because she bought a phone with this **** stuff. And she also made instagram and have an twitter. I just deleted all my social medias after break up. Fb and whatsapp but i'm thinking should i don't let her stalk me like i'm doing or should i activate fb and post some "good photos" wearing stuff like tank top? She also used to hate an girl and any girl who comment on my stuff so i was thinking should i start becoming more "sociable on social medias?" I really don't like to show off on social medias and watching facebook timeline is so depressing. Link to post Share on other sites
Tbisb74 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Ugh...please.... don't resort to childish mind-games. Rise above it, cut off all possible contact and walk away. If she's turning into the kind of person you don't like, why maintain contact with something you dislike? Be sensible, and leave it be. You won't regret it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Misterious Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 New episode of my novel guys!!!! Well this morning i called her phone and she don't picked up the call. I was going to invite her to a concert that i know she would love to go. Then she texted me few hours after: "hey i don't saw your call" and did a small joke like she used to do. I just don't texted back. Then she called me and i don't picked up the phone. I'm thinking some excuse to give her if she complain about it, humm let's see i will tell her i left my phone on my parents house or maybe i was sleeping. Perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
ThorntonMelon Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Misterious - either you're trolling, or this isn't going well at all. You need to stop contacting her. She's not interested in you anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Misterious Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 Misterious - either you're trolling, or this isn't going well at all. You need to stop contacting her. She's not interested in you anymore. Would someone who isn't interested in another person ask him "Hey where are you?" "Hey where are youn going?" Every time when she calls me she want to know what i'm doing and with who l0l. Today for exemple she called me hours ago asking where i'm at , i said i was busy going to buy something and then she asked what was that thing L0L im serious she want to know even if i'm going to buy a pair of socks or shoes. If she don't want me or don't have any interess on me why the fk would her want to know everything about me? I can bet she still interesed on me. But she is so angry and jealous person who don't accept it and don't wanna give a chance. If she came back she will be like "omg my friends never back with their ex's how i will be accepted now? I'm a loser if i give up and go back with him?" I can bet her mind is like that, she never saw a couple coming back togheter and begin happy so she is confused and dumb. Link to post Share on other sites
ThorntonMelon Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 I am 1000000% positive she isn't interested in you. She's immature. She doesn't know better. It isnt going to happen. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Misterious Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 If a girl want to know everything about you and what you are doing she must want you, have interess over you, and if she want to know the color of socks you are going to buy she is probably a posessive psychopath who would hate your next girlfriend. My ex is like that if i get another girlfriend now she would hate this girl without even know her. When i was young i told a school btch i liked her and only thinked about her guess the end? A "we can be friends". Then i gave my back to her and never talked to her 5 months later she came saying hello and trying then i said: Wtf you want? I did NC without know what is that l0l. I dont even care if this btch have the worst job in the world living under a bridge l0l. See if you don't care, dont have interes in someone you don't want to know about this person. She is doing the opositve she want to know even the details of what i'm doing L0L. Link to post Share on other sites
ThorntonMelon Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 I will stop answering. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Would someone who isn't interested in another person ask him "Hey where are you?" "Hey where are youn going?" Every time when she calls me she want to know what i'm doing and with who l0l. Today for exemple she called me hours ago asking where i'm at , i said i was busy going to buy something and then she asked what was that thing L0L im serious she want to know even if i'm going to buy a pair of socks or shoes. If she don't want me or don't have any interess on me why the fk would her want to know everything about me? I can bet she still interesed on me. But she is so angry and jealous person who don't accept it and don't wanna give a chance. If she came back she will be like "omg my friends never back with their ex's how i will be accepted now? I'm a loser if i give up and go back with him?" I can bet her mind is like that, she never saw a couple coming back togheter and begin happy so she is confused and dumb. Dude, nearly everyone on this board has gotten these types of texts, and it means nothing. She is likely bored or just wanting to yank your chain. Link to post Share on other sites
Always Pondering Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 If a girl want to know everything about you and what you are doing she must want you, have interess over you Nope. Stop being hung up on this girl, there's not a reason to. You two can't be friends and certainly cannot be in a relationship together. If you two were to even get together again in imaginary-wonderland (which isn't going to happen), the relationship would inevitably blow up with both of your mindsets. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Misterious, come back when you are actually going to listen to what people have to say to you. I don't get the point of posting on this site if you are going to argue with everyone who comments. If you are so sure she loves you, why are you on here? You're on here because deep down you are unsure, but you don't want to admit that other people might have a good idea of what they are talking about. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Misterious Posted August 17, 2014 Author Share Posted August 17, 2014 Things turn harder when you only read comments such " hey man you can't" , "things aren't this way", "it doesn't work", "she don't like you", "she will don't be in a relatioship with ya". Everytime when i read a comment like that i think about what type of person is saying this? It must be someone who falied at some point and don't wanna let others trust they can win. I think the point here is to discuss not to judge or say you can't do something. Constructive comments are good but saying someone can't and their goals aren't possible just show how small you are because if you can't do something you don't let others try. Peace and cya Link to post Share on other sites
Always Pondering Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Things turn harder when you only read comments such " hey man you can't" , "things aren't this way", "it doesn't work", "she don't like you", "she will don't be in a relatioship with ya". Everytime when i read a comment like that i think about what type of person is saying this? It must be someone who falied at some point and don't wanna let others trust they can win. I think the point here is to discuss not to judge or say you can't do something. Constructive comments are good but saying someone can't and their goals aren't possible just show how small you are because if you can't do something you don't let others try. Peace and cya No, we say these things because we've experienced them ourselves and can try to give advice without a clouded mind. It's an opinion-focused forum so ultimately it's up to you what you do but we're just here to try to help others. I guarantee you won't "win" if you stay in contact and play all these mental games. It seems you won't listen though and sometimes the best way to learn something is to experience it yourself. When things go downhill, and they will, hopefully you'll consider the advice of others even though it may not be what you want to hear. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Misterious Posted August 17, 2014 Author Share Posted August 17, 2014 No, we say these things because we've experienced them ourselves and can try to give advice without a clouded mind. It's an opinion-focused forum so ultimately it's up to you what you do but we're just here to try to help others. I guarantee you won't "win" if you stay in contact and play all these mental games. It seems you won't listen though and sometimes the best way to learn something is to experience it yourself. When things go downhill, and they will, hopefully you'll consider the advice of others even though it may not be what you want to hear. Another country, another cultural values, different people, different family issues, and you still having an love script how things work? You aren't experienced take it bro you will never fully know about human behavior and none will. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Things turn harder when you only read comments such " hey man you can't" , "things aren't this way", "it doesn't work", "she don't like you", "she will don't be in a relatioship with ya". Everytime when i read a comment like that i think about what type of person is saying this? It must be someone who falied at some point and don't wanna let others trust they can win. The fundamental point you are missing is that your "goal" involves banking on another person to feel a certain way about you, and you simply can't control that. Your goal of getting her back isn't like a goal run a 5K or finish a master's degree. Those are solo efforts. The types of people who are giving you advice are mostly people who have had the same deluded ideas you have and have lived to tell the tale. We didn't just all conspire to come up with these ideas based on something we read in a book. Most of us made the same mistakes you are making, and we actually are trying to help you. We are not trying to lead you down a bad path. Link to post Share on other sites
ThorntonMelon Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 I promised not to respond anymore but I guess I lied. You have now written posts regarding books on psychology designed around saying things you may or may not mean to try and get her to see you as a changed person. You've described ignoring her phone calls and then planning on calling her at a later time to get in her head. You've suggested you need to "win" and that she is a "goal". Now I have written in another thread that I am assuming your English isn't great and therefore there's a translation issue. However, however, however.. you have questioned my character now, you've asked what kind of person I am. First and foremost, damn straight I have failed at some point. Multiple points actually. And every single time, had I just understood that if a woman wants me, she would make it very clear she did. It would not be mind games and reading between lines and all the nonsense you're spouting. You know how I know it is nonsense? Because I said the same stuff? One of my exes started calling me repeatedly about 4 months after she broke it off, telling me we had to resolve things for our future together. I shared that conversation with my therapist and started discussing my plans to win her back. My therapist looked at me and said I was acting like a crazed drug addict trying to score my next hit. She was right. The truth was my ex felt guilty and wanted me to forgive her for her horrific behavior to satisfy her own ego. It had nothing to do with me and my needs. And you have written NOTHING that suggests she cares about your needs. You have suggested she really loves you but she would rather be without you than admit to her friends she was getting back with you. My ass!! I have been willing to quit jobs for women I loved, I've been willing to move for women I've loved, I'd have taken a bullet for any woman I ever loved. This woman who loves you, this prize, this win, this goal, what exactly is she doing for you? When you come onto this site and tell us that she is talking about YOUR needs and feelings, then I will tell you that you have something to work with. Until then, I will not respond to you anymore because you think there's something wrong with me (because I am not telling you what you want to hear), but if I did respond, I would tell you she isn't worth your time and you should find someone who does care about you and your feelings and your needs. <deep breath> 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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