Maybe after a 10 year split a second chance might work

[Darren2013]

I think the best opportunity for second chances to work out is if you bump into your ex after a 10 year breakup. With that amount of time alot of growth and maturing and self improvement could have taken place.

 

The only problem is that one or the other ex is usually married by the time 10 years have passed. But if you bump into your ex and both of you happen to be single at the time then maybe it could work out better the 2nd time around.

 

Reconciliations that happen 10 years later are more likely to work out than reconciliations that happen only after 3-6 months. A 6 month breakup is not enough time as people are more likely to revert back to their old ways.

[d0nnivain]

If you were a teen when you split & now you are an adult maybe. But a split at 25 doesn't make you a new person at 35. Going backwards is usually the wrong direction.

[Mangiafuoco]

If you were a teen when you split & now you are an adult maybe. But a split at 25 doesn't make you a new person at 35. Going backwards is usually the wrong direction.

 

Are you saing that you at 25 and at 35 years was the same? C'mon

[Moonborn]

It can work if the breakup happened only once and both people have matured enough during the time in between imo. But d0nnivain is right, you can change somehow but not that much that you become an entirely different person.

[beach]

If both people have changed for the better.

 

If not, it's just predictable the same issues will taint the union again.

[Darren2013]

If you were a teen when you split & now you are an adult maybe. But a split at 25 doesn't make you a new person at 35. Going backwards is usually the wrong direction.

 

Even between ages 25 and 35 it is common for a big change in mental maturity. I am 34 now and I am not the same person as I was at 25. My outlook on life has changed alot and when it comes to relationships I am far less clingy and needy than I was at 25. I used to be a clingy boyfriend in my early to mid 20s and that was a big factor that pushed away my exes at that time. If they were single and available now and we were both willing to test the waters to see if anything has changed then I think the relationship would be better this time around.

 

So I don't think it is limited to teenage breakups. We are all going through changes even between 35 and 45 and between 45 and 65. I see it with my parents too and they are not the same people as they were 20 years ago.

[Miss Match]

If you were a teen when you split & now you are an adult maybe. But a split at 25 doesn't make you a new person at 35. Going backwards is usually the wrong direction.

 

 

Adult maturity isn't fully formed until you get past 25 for most cases of people.

Neuroscience has shown that a young person's cognitive development continues into this later stage and that their emotional maturity, self-image and judgement will be affected until the prefrontal cortex of the brain has fully developed.

Alongside brain development, hormonal activity is also continuing well into the early twenties.

 

So if there would be a considerable difference between the same person at 25 or 35. Well, are far as maturity levels go. It's not as though someone is going to morph into a completely different person, but it is likely that they may have moved past problems that prevented them from successful relationships in early adulthood.

[d0nnivain]

I didn't mean for it to be an exact science but when it comes to my views on relationships I haven't change all that much.

 

I date two different guys between 24-26. I am most grateful I'm not married to either of them.