fairy_dust Posted February 27, 2005 Share Posted February 27, 2005 Curios wife here as my hubby has kept in contact with his past gf, she occasionally emails him and not sure if he talks to her either. He says I shouldn't worry but something tells me I should. Been married for a year now and deeply in love and committed to him only, I trust him but something tells me he still loves her. I feel like I am just here to be here because he is a service man on active duty. She is working towards a profession of entertainment, I figure those maybe the reason they may not have hooked up. Don't know but should I worry he loves me for the now or he really means to spend his life with me? need advice... Fairy_Dust Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted February 27, 2005 Share Posted February 27, 2005 A lot of things to consider. Friendships between past couples can last, even if the couples don't. That might be the case here. Things that increase the likelihood of this are: amicable split, no cheating during their relationship. Feelings of love can still be there, when the relationship is gone. Especially if they broke up, because they were moving away from each other geographically. How did you know that he emails with her? If he told you there is almost certainly nothing going on. Does he act defensively when you question him, when he says he still loves her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author fairy_dust Posted February 28, 2005 Author Share Posted February 28, 2005 Well he doesn't tell me that he still loves her pretty much keeps things like that to himself. But he is 12 years older than I am and well I guess he made his decision to settle down with me when he met me. I find that he knows what he wants although the fact is in the future, thats what I am worrying about. I pour my whole heart and soul out to him and well, *sighs* if he says there is nothing to worry I guess thats it. All I know is if he ever leaves me cheat's on me, it will hurt like hell and well my whole world is gonna come crashing down. But I guess I will do what I gotta..... Thanks, Fairy_Dust Link to post Share on other sites
latesleeper Posted February 28, 2005 Share Posted February 28, 2005 hey fairy dust, i think you should address your need to know clearly where he stands with you and where you stand with him. YOU DESERVE IT and you should have it. this could be a future issue with you and it's going to be all the more heartbreaking when your relationship is deeper and stronger with this man. just my opinion, but i feel that not dealing or talking or working out things like this, or suppressing your needs, would also serve it up in a worse way later. however, if you really decide to listen to him and believe him, then it's no issue. however, you don't sound too sure, so i would suggest you work it out with him (until you are at peace in your own heart and mind) while it's still a little seed and not a full blown giant tree. it's pretty scary, but believe me, it's a lot scarier when it's grown! good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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