Online dating?

[MGX]

What REALLY worked for me in the past was CHATTING. Never just having a profile, but being able to talk to people. If women like your personality and look forward to chatting with you online, then they'll want to meet you in real life.

 

I found my first girlfriend through an online AOL chat. That led to a 3 year relationship. And I found someone else through chatting, although it didn't lead to a relationship. So you CAN find someone online.

 

But with some of these dating sites, LOOKS are the only thing most people go on. That seems to take much longer....

Edited August 16, 2014 by MGX

[MGX]

Odds are stacked against guys on OLD i say. You need to be lucky to get noticed. Ive been on okcupid and almost never get a message. Good job, own my house, look decent (tho short), plenty of savings, gym but nothing. Girls are pretty much harassed on there tho by men in for a quickie so i cant blame them either.

 

I'm on POF and I got a message my first week! Unfortunately, distance was a factor.

[Missy0724]

I think the key point is with OLD, is that it takes TIME. And what you put into it. The quality of your profile, being honest, just contacting people, having fun with it, not taking it so seriously! It can work! It is how a lot of people are meeting and dating these days! Especially people in the 30-60 year old range. We don't go to bars anymore, and most of our friends are married. I am divorced, in my 40's and have been using OLD for three years. Have met TONS of men, nice men, couple weirdos. (OK Cupid, Match) Have had two LTR. They didn't work out, but that happens in real life as well. Doesn't matter how you meet...

 

I have a friend who is 60 and she met her soon to be husband on POF. I know other people who have met thru Match and gotten married. Even know a couple who met on Craig's List (this was years ago before ONL became popular) and got married!

 

You just never know. I just met a guy who met his former wife while out walking...walked by a house that was for sale, like it, knocked on door and asked her how much it was on the market for? They ended up connecting, and getting married! :-)

 

OLD is just another tool for meeting people. I think the key is getting out there, living life...being active, doing stuff. You will meet people.

 

And when the time is right, it just may happen. But have to give it TIME. What is the rush? The best things are worth waiting for. Hard to do at times, believe me! But with a good mind set, positive thinking, getting online, keep at it, don't give up!

[FitChick]

I know many people who met their spouses online.

[Nimme]

It´s pretty hard to find someone genuiene and true online too. And beeing a girl on datingsites, can sometimes wear you down. No matter the site.

[irc333]

I had taken a good 6 month break from POF. I registered again with the site only to see MOSTLY the same faces again months later.

 

I was thinking, "I emailed all these women before, they all ignored me and they are STILL on here!"

 

Online dating really enables the unrealistic expectations of people, I tell ya.

 

Quite a few attention seekers on here. There's a local woman in my area that has a screen name handle of "living doll" she takes selfies of her in hot little outfits in what looks to be a department store dressing room. She keeps rotating the photos, too. One was even at a workplace restroom. lol

 

There is nothing significantly substantial in her profile write up.

 

Another I had to laugh that she was "seeking a man of God and not wanting to be a sexy toy to anyone" yet she has a few "butt in the mirror selfie shots".

[WesternWizard]

Yeah, ever since it started hemorraging members to meetups, it looks like OLD is turning into a basket case in double time.

 

Even the people who plastered OLDSs with fake profiles took their ball and went home after the rest of us got hip to the scam... that explains why there are fewer hot-looking women on the sites. :lol:

 

Seriously though... the OLD crowd who are sincere are in trouble. They're being squeezed to go to meetups instead (or else they've been living under a rock for the last 5 years), and many of them are not only rather unattractive, but some of them have bad attitudes which make them undateable. I'm not just talking about the women who act like entitled princesses... it's also the men who cry like 2-yo babies if they don't get laid at the drop of a hat.

[kart180]

Tried it, got scammed, moved on. might try personal matchmakers or just be single for now

[irc333]

Funny, you're the first to mention this, Western Wizard, about the mix of singles between the real life Meetup events and online dating.

 

I've seen both women at both venues. However, I noticed a lot of the women...at least the more attractive ones...they join the Meetup, but NEVER attend events, but I do see them on dating sites.

 

I'm sure you've seen it....there's hundreds of members on the Meetup site, but only a small handful actually attend them. It's as if they prefer to remain unsociable and just pick and choose from the false, cyberworld than the option of real life, human interaction.

 

They just look at the RSVP list for an event on a Sat. night, and go, "Yep, bunch of ugly dudes are going...I'm staying logged into Match.com all night instead". LOL

 

 

Yeah, ever since it started hemorraging members to meetups, it looks like OLD is turning into a basket case in double time.

 

Even the people who plastered OLDSs with fake profiles took their ball and went home after the rest of us got hip to the scam... that explains why there are fewer hot-looking women on the sites. :lol:

 

Seriously though... the OLD crowd who are sincere are in trouble. They're being squeezed to go to meetups instead (or else they've been living under a rock for the last 5 years), and many of them are not only rather unattractive, but some of them have bad attitudes which make them undateable. I'm not just talking about the women who act like entitled princesses... it's also the men who cry like 2-yo babies if they don't get laid at the drop of a hat.