R3d Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 (edited) I have talked to my mother about dating and such (more information here) and she said that she'll let me date, but only like going out for a couple hours at a time (I'll negotiate this for a movie date, since movies can take a longer time and then I would probably want to leave some buffer time before and after - then again I wouldn't do a movie date as a first date anyway) and only like "out" for now (not inviting her to my place and such). See part of the problem last year was that I wasn't so sure on how I would actually go on dates if I got any so that's why I was beating around the bush and not really asking any of the girls out. I wanted to get that out of the way for next year so that's why I have verified with my mom about my permission to date and would also like to get the logistics out of the way. I know I am putting the cart before the horse as usual and planning way far into the future. I mean I may not even get a date next year, but still, I'd like to have the logistics planned out so there aren't any complications. Is it okay to have a closing time pre-planned? Like I said, I am getting limited time here (~2 hours except for special situations) and I am getting dropped off and picked up because I am not getting my permit until next summer and my license for another year and a half. So let's say, I decide to go bowling on a Saturday afternoon. Would it be appropriate when planning the date to be like, "Alright, meet me at [place] at 2:00 PM. I can only stay until 4:00 - just saying"(example starting and ending times). Then getting there would be the easy part (and I would make it a point to make it there five minutes early). For closing, 5 minutes before I have to go, I'd just turn on my phone and the notification ringer alert (and tell my parents on the way there to just text me when you're hear to pick me up) and when it goes off, just close the date with a hug/kiss/whatever is appropriate and say something based on how the date went and then just leave (but she would be left there to either drive herself back home or have her parents pick her up). And this could pretty much work for any date and the date time could be altered to accommodate. And if she was to leave earlier, that wouldn't be a problem. I could just call up my parents after she would leave and ask them to pick me up early. Would this appropriate for high school dating? It's the only viable way I see to conduct dates in my situation... The reason I am thinking about this now is because I am planning on talking to my mom again to be more specific about how I'd like to conduct dates so that when I finally do get a date, there aren't any misconceptions or complications. Yeah, I know, it feels slightly childish and play-date-like, but what else can I do? Edited August 17, 2014 by R3d Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 TBH, most of my 'dates' before driving/having my own car were 'hang-out' dates, most often at the mini-golf course or the roller-skating rink, both of which I could walk to or ride my bike. IMO, worry less about logistics and just go have fun. Whatever happens, happens. Heck, sometimes all that happened would be riding over to a girl's house and taking her for a ride on the handlebars of the stingray over to the nearby park. Link to post Share on other sites
Author R3d Posted August 17, 2014 Author Share Posted August 17, 2014 (edited) As I said in a previous thread before, a lot of places to actually hang out are not within reasonable biking distance. It's just hard to have that kind of mobility in this town when you can't drive. That's the thing. Hardly any activities nearby and for all I know, the girl could be living at the other side of the town so more likely than not, it's not like I could just pick up my bike and ride their whenever. And yes, my date ideas are mostly hang-out dates; it's just that they require me to drive as well. There are only a couple date ideas for which I won't have to get driven, and those won't be possible in the winter because they are outdoors. The reason I am "worrying" about logistics is because I can't really do anything without my parents' transportation and as I said, they are somewhat limiting the time I spend on dates (in most cases, I won't be getting much more than a couple hours for a date). I do have an idea for how I would conduct formal dates, carhill. What I am asking is is what I have described appropriate? An old friend of mine lives in a nearby town and it's kind of the same issue there, and before he could drive, he would just get driven. Edited August 17, 2014 by R3d Link to post Share on other sites
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